I'm one of the pickiest guys i have ever meet. I was in a long 4 year relationship and haven't dated in almost 2 years just wasn't ready and wanted to focus on school.. Now that i got my shit together i meet this girl who works at this small coffe shop near me and i knew she was the one when i meet her.. i know sounds bitchy but listen up, i hate skinny girls NO OFFENSE, i love thick beautiful girls and this girl fits the criteria BIG TIME she's stunning and im a peoples person so i never have an issue talking to people but everytime i see her im like Hey hows it going? Then while im waiting for my coffe ill think of something cheesy to say but nothing too cheesy.. She never smiles at any other customer like she does to me and she can barely keep eye contact... think is she's prob like 2 or 3 years younger then me and i saw a ring but not on the right finger.. scared the shit out of me and at the same time it made me more nervous to say something to her just because i would so awkward if she's like i have a boyfriend or im engaged. Like i said ladies and gents im no player i dont do the hook ups or bar scene im a old fashioned greek italian boy haha. So id love to hear some tips on how i can take that next step and maybe even ask her out?
Most Helpful Girl
Trick her into first letting you know if she's single in a random conversation maybe if you want to avoid the "awkward" situation. I think you should talk more to her so you know more about her to take her out. She does seem interested as you say. Simply just ask her out, tell her how you feel she's great and just go for it when you're both comfortable enough.1
Most Helpful Guy
I'll give you a bit of advice. Asking for something off of somebody it feels like the words get stuck in your throat. Asking a girl out is like trying to headbutt through concrete sometimes, it just won't come out. There's a way to prepare for it. You ever been bored or offended by something someone's brought up in a conversation but you felt you didn't want to offend them by calling them out on it? You do a socially acceptable thing by changing the subject don't you? That's hard for socially aware people to do. Try it next time. Just change the subject. It feels like an edgy thing to do at the time but it gives you control. Doing something like that and getting used to it is good practise for asking girls out. It gives you power in your head and confidence. Believe me it helps1