So you have been dating a guy, assumed he had no kids and everythign was going well between you two. 6 months into the relationship you are now boyfriend and girlfriend and you randomly ask if he wants kids, he replys he already has two and they live with his ex girlfriends (1 from each). He says it casually and when you ask why he didn't tell you he says you never asked and that they have sole custody over them.
He hasn't been dishonest its just you never bought up that conservation until now.
- Still date him7% (1)25% (1)11% (2)Vote
- Break up43% (6)25% (1)39% (7)Vote
- have a break14% (2)25% (1)17% (3)Vote
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Most Helpful Girl
To me... I've talked to a guy who had a daughter. He told me the second day we talked. He said his parents aren't ashamed of him so why should he be ashamed of his daughter.
If I talked to a guy for 6 monthe and his children never came up. There is something TOTALLY wrong with that picture. To me it seems like he is ashamed of them. Or wanted to be secretive about kids. Why? Is the real question. I wouldn't break up but still be cautious.
I think it was dishonesty if you didn't tell about your kids I mean c'mon you have kids. Thats something you don't want to bring up because you'd want to know if the girl is ready to accept your kids or not. People that love their kids talk about him if he didn't he either hates his kids, is embarrassed by having kids, or isn't serious enough about the girl to have told her1
Most Helpful Guy
This wasn't cool finding out during the second date. Six months down the road is much worse.0