My last relationship ended very painfully, where the guy cheated on me the whole time and lied to me about virtually everything. My current boyfriend actually distantly knows my ex boyfriend from working with him in the past, but doesn't see or talk to him anymore. Now he's working on a new project and is working with him again and my ex wants to go out for drinks with him. I told him I will never control him, but the fact that he wants to hang out with him feels like it doesn't matter what he did to me. Am I overreacting? How can I address this without acting psycho? It's really freaking me out.
Most Helpful Guy
Shit. Why would i want my girlfriend to hangout with my ex that cheated on me?
Personally, if he is even entertaining the idea of hanging out with someone that hurt you, he's an idiot. But you should at the very least let him know you feel uncomfortable with the idea to see if he cares about your feelings.
And if he goes out with your ex and have drinks... you should dump that shit and tell him to go date your ex.3
Most Helpful Girl
I would feel uncomfortable in this situation too. It's one thing having to associate with him at work , but another to hang out with him for drinks. He isn't showing much regard for your feelings, and it's quite disrespectful. It's unusual for a guy to want to hang out with his girlfriends ex.
There's nothing much you can do about it , except to tell him how you really feel, and hope he will love you enough to put your own feelings above his own. Considering how much your ex obviously hurt you, your ex shouldn't want to associate with anyone who has hurt you that way
If i was dating a guy, i would never put him in an uncomfortable position such as this, I would definitely consider his feelings. I would feel disloyal to my him if i went for drinks with his ex.2