I was watching an episode of Steve Harvey about interracial dating. I'm thinking about broadening my horizons. What do you think? Have you ever dated anyone outside of your race? What was the experience like?
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I'm a quarter Japanese and 75% white with Irish ancestry so just about everything feels like interracial dating to me, though somehow it felt like it most when I was dating a Russian woman and another time when I was dating a black woman.
I think it's because I spent most of my life in Japan, so the majority of women I dated were Japanese, and I also feel most comfortable around Japanese people. That said, it still feels interracial, even with my wife, since I don't quite look Japanese.
I'm used to getting some odd looks here and there, but I'm used to it, being pretty much treated like a foreigner no matter where I go (my friends in the U. S. say I'm from Japan, my friends in Japan say I'm from the U. S.).
The toughest time for me was when I dated a black woman, and maybe that's when the "interracial" aspect of it most stood out. I didn't find out until then that my mother (100% white) was pretty racist, and it strained my relationship with her. Furthermore, when holding hands with her in public, people would tease us sometimes about it, so it was a bit difficult. But I loved her very much, still remember that her cheeks were so soft and I couldn't stop kissing them, and she made me like BBQ ribs. I never liked BBQ ribs before, but she made me try some at her favorite restaurant and I fell in love with BBQ ribs right then and there.
Mostly I think every woman I've dated broadened my horizons a bit, got me to like new things, made me experience new things. With the Russian girlfriend, I felt so close to her family. I met them soon after and they treated me like one of their own, though I didn't care much for the food (tried some weird things like pickled eggs).
Above all, my idea of beauty has broadened to kind of encompass the entire world. I've come to find people of all sorts of ethnic backgrounds to be really attractive, and it made me appreciate traveling a lot more, and also helped me build a diverse range of friends.1