Most of my friends are/have got married and I haven't even been kissed. I used to have problems talking to guys (and to be honest anybody) when I was in my early 20s. I sort of grew out of it but still have few guys friends (all taken).
I think what stops me now from talking to guys is that they've all kissed lots of girls and slept with lots of girls and here I am with no experience. I feel like it would make me look undesirable (it definitely makes me feel that way) to them and I wouldn't know how to tell someone if I ever go on a date.
I feel like its a vicious circle because my lack of experience/fear of them laughing at me stops me from talking to guys and that in leads to lack of experience.
How do I deal with this?
Most Helpful Guy
Just stop thinking about it or focus so much on it.
Just be like who really gives a fuck about what they about you other than themselves?
Or ask yourself, why should you even give a fuck about what they think or feel about you this way? Especially, since thinking about it is only going to make you feel down and bad then would it not be better to just not think or care about how they would think or feel about you?
Worth and self-esteem is really on you. If you continue to feel and think that you are worthless then you might actually believe in it and give totally into it.
If they laugh at you or belittle you for being still single, shy, whatever, then tell them "hey, I find that shit really offensive to me, and I don't find you helpful for laughing at me and putting me down, so cut that shit out already".1
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