So many people responded to my post about the cost of dating for women by saying that women don't have to do their hair or nails or dress nicely, that I'm stunned. Part of the issue, I think, is it guys don't realize what we would look like if we really let ourselves go.
So how important is it to you that a woman doesn't have broken nails with chipped polish; dull, frizzy hair; old clothes; worn-out shoes, stained undies, etc? If we really stopped wearing makeup and getting facials, meaning we had zits, oily skin, and plain faces, would you still ask us out?
If you're going out with someone from college, the local librarian, or your kids' friends' mom, that's different.
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You are putting together two completely different areas in here. You are joining beauty and lust with simple "comon sense".
Men don't care much for nails stuff, shoes stuff, and makeup stuff. But now here is where you commit the error:
Because we don't care, it doesn't mean that you should walk around in completely old shoes with holes on them, broken nails, and put random makeup. It means that you don't have to walk in high shiny heels all day, it means you don't have to paint your nails, but at least cut them, right? Light makeup will suffice...
You don't have to look magazine gorgeous, but you shouldn't look like you just got out of bed (unless you're not going anywhere important that day)
You see, stuff like cutting your nails, brushing and washing your hair, washing your face every morning, and not walking around in completely old clothes or shoes (old, not out of fashion), I consider that part of ones hygiene.. regardless of the gender
You should know where you're going, if you look like a prom queen just to go to the supermarket or to work everyday, I would assume you were obsessed with beauty, and very high maintenance. I mean it's nice to look at, but I could never touch you, I'd ruin all your beauty work, right? We want something tangible, something that we feel that we could actually reach for.
To finish, we are aware of how women look without makeup, and that's why we hate it, cause it's just a mask that we can't even touch.
And never underestimate the power of simplicity... less is more, ever heard of that? (It depends on who you're trying to attract though)1