I'm starting to look for prom dates and i thought the perfect time would be to start asking around (or rather approaching and hinting) during Valentine's day. Let the guys know i'm interested. Except that i have no idea how to approach them. I have no idea how to introduce myself to guys. I'm more use to them introducing themselves to me which is also way more fun. However they also don't know how to introduce themselves to me apparently since they aren't certain i'm interested in them (i'm more of a private person). BUT, i do like these guys and i'm fairly certain they like me enough to go on a date. Its just that we don't have any friends in common, all of our circles are very small. The two guys i'm interested in are both very smart ( One's going to Princeton and the other is going to Vanderbilt) so they also don't have a ton of experience in the realm of dating either. What is a classy way to approach them to let them know i'm interested? I'm also worried because both of them are ethnic (One's Chinese and the other is Thai) and i'm the tall, blonde, blue eyed stereotype. Any advice?
Most Helpful Guy
I suggest opening with a non threatening approach such as a survey. Smart guys love it when they can show off their knowledge and opinions.
So, tell him that your doing a survey for any topic you'd like, such as politics, opinions about the prom scenarios, etc.
This will give you something to do with your hands and it lets you look away from his eyes and down to the paper, if you get nervous.
If you wear glasses, put them on. You'll look brainier and less threatening. Just not sunglasses as they are intimidating. It may be a cliche, but it works!
Write down five or six questions on different subjects to have a starting point. After asking a few questions you can then take the discussion into other directions. He will be happy to follow you there.
If you get nervous or stuck, look down at the paper and pick another question. This will let you continue the conversation as long as you like until both of you are comfortable.
Then, ask him if he's thinking about going to the prom. Don't ask his opinion on what to wear, as he will have no idea how to answer it.
Whether he answers yes or no, it doesn't matter. You now broached the subject and have an opening to continue.
Now it will be easier to ask him the key question, "Would you like to Go to the Prom with ME?"
If he seems uncertain, it's probably because he has no clue as to what to wear, or about corsages, etc. So, let him know you'd be happy to help him pick out clothes, etc.
He will be so relieved not to have to make those decisions by himself.
This then gives you the opportunity to get his phone number and have opportunities to call him about picking out a tux, how to get to the prom, etc.
It will give you a chance to speak with him and get to know him better, without the noise and distraction of the prom going on.0
Most Helpful Girl
Dude thats easy just be logically and ask him out. clear as water!1