I suspect all he wants is variety and to be guilt free to screw other chicks. If he was done with me he would just break up and I would never hear from him again.
Since the break up, he never stopped contacting me and doing me favors, he still takes me out to date. Now he is upfront about he is not ready for relationship and he wants me to be open with man who are commitment friendly. He said he will also be open and will let people know he is not looking for relationship.
Why is he still spedning time and resources on me? I'm not providing sex since he broke up wtih me even we are dating agian
Most Helpful Guy
That is very confusing. Sounds like he is just playing the field or gets some pleasure out of being with multiple women. If he isn't giving you what you want then you need to drop him completely There is nothing you can do to change him. He has already made up his mind. You shouldn't wait for him to realize he made a mistake leaving you. By the time he does, you should already be in another relationship with a great person.2
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Most Helpful Girl
The best thing you can do is walk away with your dignity in tact rather than sacrifice it for a subpar relationship that does not offer what you wish to have. He is spending time and resources on you as an act of selfishness because he would like to have you around as backup in case his plan doesn't unfold accordingly. Not because the eager hope you have that you mean more than what he says is true. But just in case the women he's interested in don't want to sleep with him, you'll be around like a 24 hour sexual, emotional, and mental ATM to provide pussy, conversation, and whatever womanly offerings he enjoys. Him doing you favors and still letting you feast off of the delights you experienced as a girlfriend is his way of ensuring that you'll be available while he plays the field so that way he doesn't actually have to commit, be faithful, and exercise the self-control and hard work of loyalty yet he can still reap the benefits of being someone's companion. Quite sleazy, calculative, and manipulative if you ask me.3
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