I have certain dealbreakers, like I'll only get with a guy that has a third level education, loves animals and isn't covered head to toe in tattoos. I also need someone who's caring, kind and passionate.
I've only ever been with two guys in my life who met these standards. The first is my now ex and we broke up because he wanted to just focus on his career (among other things) and the second we broke up because he had no respect at all for my feelings and tried to avoid them at all costs.
My best friend is constantly talking to guys. And they say things to her that if they said to me, I'd never speak to them again. Like if a guy in anyway starts acting like a dick to me, then I'll cut them off. She seems to put up with it. And it's stuff like this that makes me wonder if my standards are too high :/ Do you think they are?
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah, I'd say way too high. You should drop that to a middle school education, hates animals, covered in tattoos with a butt tattoo of the Linux penguin being acceptable, and someone who uses and manipulates you all the time.
I don't think those standards are very high at all, just very practical.
One of the weird things I get from this site is that I read so many horror stories lately that I'm starting to feel like both a misandrist and misogynist. :-D I'm just reading so much about cheating, people acting like jerks, etc., that it kind of degrades my entire faith in the human race.
There are plenty of nice people out there. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places. Typically people who think their standards are too high are looking for love in all the wrong places, not networking and branching out and making lots of friends. That's typically the best way to do it, and you'll get to know people for a while (or at least know a lot about them) before you start dating them.2
Most Helpful Girl
No, I don't think they're too high at all, sounds normal and like you know what you want and have respect for yourself. It's good you don't take guys' shit!1