Is there any point in pursuing a good relationship with strong feelings involved?
It Seems like most guys are only after sex or Just not interesting, people are just getting more and more self centered, so it Seems hopeless to try to meet a decent guy these days.
It Seems so much easier to get involved with an average guy (looks, personality wise etc) who likes to spend on others and have this non-emotional (from my part) relationship with him.
This way i'll have some sort of fun instead of sitting at home wanting something that might not even exist
Most Helpful Guy
Most guys ARE only after sex. The question is, what is he willing to do to get it?
Is he willing to fall in love with you, check his desires, date, love, and trust you, and after months and years when he is sure he wants to spend the rest of his life with you (Remember... years of dating in celibacy) he marries you.
Then, on the honeymoon, you are so enamored with him, so in love, so desirous of him, you two finally come together and commemorate the life- commitment you two have made, beginning a lifelong process of discovery and bonding to one another.
Anything less is just compromise.
People do not want to invest the work, the suffering, the pain of self denial, to actually get to KNOW ONE ANOTHER without making out and eventually screwing, so very few people ever get to know what real, true, deep, lasting love means.
Don't just "Get involved" with someone. Men who are willing to wait, who want to get to know you, are out there, but we are very few. If you wait, you may find what you are looking for.
If he wants to make out before your honeymoon, in my opinion, that's a red flag he is only interested in sex, or at least interested above knowing you as a person, first.9
Most Helpful Girl
Of course there's still a point in pursuing a LTR these days.
It still provides the feeling of security, stability, and almost constant companionship that it once offered. Guys these days are only after sex if that's all you offer them. Of course few would turn down or not even consider sex if it's given to them with NSA and a willing girl.
If you want a LTR, that's something built off of much more than sex alone. If you build the foundation of whatever relationship you have with a guy on sex, it won't last long nor will it be very fulfilling outside of in the physical aspect.
As for yourself, sounds like you're either one of those people who are not too into long term relationships period, or are not yet at that level of maturity.
Different strokes for different folks. :P1