I don't feel angry or bitter or sad, I've just sort of lost interest in relationships and love. The only thing that remains is sexual feelings.
Has as anyone had that happen? What did you do?
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I got to that state during a long and drawn out period of being brokenhearted, where I didn't want to invest anything after that, went from wanting to jump into commitments to being allergic to them all of a sudden.
It seems easy to streamline these relationships down to just sex. After all, that's the of the sole activities you two can share that you can't do with just a regular friend.
But I got out of that mindset by not pursuing women for a while and instead just pursuing friends. I found more comfort in friends for a good while over girlfriends, until I met some girls who started becoming interesting to me that way after I knew them for typically longer than I previously knew other girls I dated, and eventually married one of those.
Typically I did things before the opposite way. I'd be very attracted to a woman first, want to have sex with her, ask her out on a date quickly, and then see how the dates pan out and how much fun we have both in and outside the bedroom.
My later style when I was starting to lose confidence in the whole romance thing and just streamlining it to sex was when I started doing opposite. I'd just be friends with girls first, then the dynamic together was great as friends so that part was secure, then ask them out and see what it's like in the bedroom. When both of those dynamics are great, then you find a keeper with whom you can confidently enter a relationship, not feeling the need to strip it down to just a sexual exchange.1
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