If you don't, you get friendshipzoned or rejected. End of story. We all know there is more to us than just sex but in attraction, a man has to go in with a mindset of both "she is a person" and "she is a sexual object". Why go for her in the first place? You need to be physically attracted to her. But you don't know her for shit and it boils down to a dance of displaying your sexual interest while getting to know her. Very difficult dance for many men.
Most Helpful Girl
Not as a sex object. Physical attraction cam be shown without having to make her feel like you want to fuck her. I honestly find that uncomfortable. Attraction can be shown in no sexual ways as well. Later ofcourse whe you move towards an intimate relationship it makes sense to show that attraction as she will as well. And even if you do show sexual interest "objectifying" is a wrong approach. That would just make a girl feel like you want off while thinking of her.
Eg- guy A told me he'd like to see me on a playboy magazine cover. While he always tries to know me otherwise I'm completely creeped out and don't want to talk to him.
On the other hand
Guy B has had many deep and intellectual conversations with me, has gotten to know me and I know him as well. Now he tells me I'm really cute and pretty occasionally, while he'll give me physical signals. That make me feel good about him and keeps me interested. Of course the sexual talk and touching will go wilder ahead. But that's not objectifying if you add meaning to her in your attraction.2
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Most Helpful Guy
Yes scrambled I know, that's the game, go grab a beer and chill or go get a prostitute, whining about things doesn't help anyone.1