After a lot of deliberation, research, and advice, I decided some time ago that I never want biological children. I've thought this out very thoroughly and I have solid reasoning for this decision, the foremost reason being that it's my body and if I don't want to put a baby in it, I'm not going to. Nothing is going to change my mind on the matter.
However! I would very much like to adopt (adoption is a fairly normal thing in my family/extended family and I've always wanted to do it), so I do in fact still want children - just not my own.
So, guys, whether you want children or not, at what point in the dating/relationship process should a girl tell you something like this? And for guys who are set on having biological children, would this decision be a dealbreaker in the relationship?
Most Helpful Guy
It's a deal breaker for me. I always wanted children, to grow a family. I think it would get discussed soon into the relationship in the first few days because you talk about so many topics. I think it's best to say right away during the first couple dates just to not waste anyone's time.3
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Most Helpful Girl
Probably as soon as it seems the relationship is going somewhere (maybe a month in or so).
Just out of curiosity (since some guys may ask this as well), if the guy had his heart set on having biological children someday, would you be okay with him using a surrogate? So he can have one biological child as well as however many you want to adopt.1