I met my ex boyfriend (due to his death) when i was 14. He died in an accident 2 weeks after my 19th bday I am now 22. My ex and I had plans to move in together on my 19th (ive been with him for so long i knew he was the one) He was my only boyfriend and our relationship was so matured. We were in love. Now its been 3 years (i admit not a day goes by without thinking about him) I am currently in a relationship with a nice guy for about 10 months now (not very long but its a start of moving on). Everything is matured and he know about my past. However im contemplating on ending it. he's a very nice guy but Im just not feeling it but at the same time i dont want to be alone forever. We keep getting into fights because I still keep photos of me and my ex and i still wear my ex boyfriend's locket which he gave to me and it means so much to him (it was his grandma's necklace) He gets so mad at me when i mention him he even said this to me "If he ever came back to life im sure youd leave me behind and go back with him" after he said that thats when i started contemplating on ending it. I mean he's a nice guy and I do fear being alone forever but honestly if that where the case, yes I would choose my deseased ex boyfriend if i had a wish to be with him again. Honestly what is my bf's issue? Im i supposed to just forget about my ex and erase him from my memory like nothing happened? doesn't my current boyfriend sound a little harsh? or im i the one in the wrong? Any advice and opinion would be appreciated. I would love to hear what a stranger says online rather than friends that i personally know.
Most Helpful Guy
You are wrong love, need to let go of your ex! Being in love with your ex and being in relationship with this man is like cheating on both of them.
Today you need to step up and tell your man that it's true that you are stuck on your ex and you will not be able to move on, and you will need his help to move you on. And then follow his trail..
It's so sweet like an epic love story, tears are falling from my eyes, that lucky guy who was loved by you until he left the world. Reminds me of movie "PS I love you"2
Most Helpful Girl
I am so very sorry for your sad loss here, dear. And it is Obvious tha the still Plays a Big part in your own life of Strife Because... He gets so mad at me when i mention him...
No matter who you Might be or Intend to Marry, You are Still Holding on to the Past that has happened so Long ago and You... Cannot let go, you are Not Ready Not Willing to do so right now.
You are Comparing Yesterday to Today in every way to the Problem circle Point that the Newbie is Becoming Furious and is Infuriated with this Ghost and it is Causing Conflict in Your Unhealthy relationship.
I feel it is Best from the Rest to Let Go and Let God... For Now anyways. With the things tha tare Out of the closet and probably Should Be In the Closet if you were really serious about this New guy, then Keep on what you are doing, mend your own heart and when you are Ready and raring to 'mend' your old ways, then begin slowly a relationship But Don't... Keep the skeleton Rattling someone else's chains who has More Gains. You have even Openly Admitted here, dear, 'Just not feeling it' and this is telling me you are Not In love with him.
No, he is Not Being a 'Little harsh,' he is Prepared for a Relationship but doesn't want to be a Fifth wheel with having to Feel he must Compete with Pete. He should Not have to see Reminders and Finders of Who you Still Love and I I believe it is Not Fair for him to have to Share. I also Think you really just do Not want to be Alone.
The ball is in your court, think it over. Right now, sitting down to open lines of convo, for it has been '10 months' and hopefully counting, is Your Last Resort to Sort.
Please, find a Friend who can perhaps help you deal with this or someone you can relate To.. You just could end up Dying... Alone.
Good luck. xx1