If you hooked up with somebody you weren't interested in, would you leave the morning after? Or would you stay til evening? Im asking because I met someone and after we hooked up he stayed around all day watching movies and what not (we bought breakfast and lunch etc). I've had this happen to me once before and me and the guy ended up dating a few months but this guy I'm talking about I never heard from again. lol I reach out to him like 4 or 5 days later and he told me he'd text me later but never did. I thought if it was just a fling you don't lead people on (and definitely would not want to if not intersted) by staying with them the day after UNLESS YOU ACTUALLY LIKE THEM. Am I mistaken? What the hell was up with this dude? If I'd known I'd never hear from him I'd kicked him out right after sex lol
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds like he doesn't understand the protocols around this lol
If it's a hookup/one time thing, you do the deed and then you move on either that night OR first thing the next day. If you're having breakfast I would be inclined to think you/them want more, if you're having lunch and watching movies till dinner time, I would definitely think they want some sort of "relationship".2
Most Helpful Girl
A good friend from college liked to slut around and always either left before they woke up or if they ended up back at her place wouldn't even let them sleep over.
In their 30's though even the male sluts sometimes start wanting more attention. They don't like you its just that more of their friends are married so they start wanting someone to go to brunch with or whatever. They don't want to go with you they just want to go with anyone.
The other option maybe that he doesn't normally sleep around and didn't know how to handle the situation. He got away as soon as he thought it was reasonably acceptable.
You can avoid this in the future by not sleeping with just anyone or at least if you are going to go into the situation with the understanding it's a one time thing. If he won't leave in the morning tell him you have stuff to do. If you want anything more than that get to know them first.
Sex with people you don't know well makes everything else feel awkward. If it doesn't feel right sober than it is probably too soon. Quickest way to end something that could have been great.1