How often does a little break or space apart actually benefit a relationship?
I finally confronted my boyfriend about issues in our relationship and he refused to see them as they were. We decided we'd rather take a little break rather than breaking up for good. By that we decided to limit contact and give eachother some space. What are our chances of this actually helping our relationship?
To me it is usually a sign of trouble but it is a good idea to take a step back to think about it - I would be inclined to say it will end in B but there is a small chance it will work - Do I think it should be done, yes I would be in favour of it even though I wouldn't hold out much hope for it.
I didn't want to pick never so I picked sometimes and it's the lower percentage like 25% than 50-50. It shows their is a clear lack of communication and that problems can't be worked through and solved in a productive manner. That hurts the relationship as it comes up again and again.
I've never understood the purpose of a "break." Either a couple wants to be together or they don't. It seems to me like going on a "break" would just be complicated and cause more issues. Either stay together and work out the problems or, if you don't think you want to be together anymore, then end the relationship. That just makes the most sense to me, personally.
A break can be both, allow both partners to realize what they actually want out of the relationship or it can show them that they are no longer happy and that working at the problems would be pointless if they no longer saw a future. Space can either make or break a relationship, in my experience a break made us get back together but there was still unresolved issues and it got better at first but only lasted a little bit-- safe to say we broke up.
Communication strengthens a relationship, ignoring each other causes distance between you both. Regardless of a break or not , the issues are still there, so you still have to talk things through to resolve them when you start speaking again. Having the ability to overcome problems/issues in the relationship shows the strength of the bond you have with each other.
A break could help, but once you come back together you'll still have to go over those issues, they don't just disappear. You said he refuses to see the issues as they are, so how does he see them? Does he think everything is just fine between you two or does he see other issues between you two? And what are the main kinds of issues you brought up?