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Most Helpful Guy
A lot of women create drama with the fathers. She may have tricked the guy into getting pregnant, and enjoys using the kid as a weapon to punish the father for not remaining trapped like she expected him to. Then they expect her new man to constantly side with her, and want him to out alpha the father while he is around, so that the father can see she found a better man.
Of course not all single mothers act that way, but the ones that do, are so insane it leaves a lasting impression on a guy. Often it may even be women in his own family that acted like that, so he may think it is normal.
I don't want to date women with kids, because that always leaves me feeling left out. Imagine if you were with a man that had kids, and you had no kids. The kids love him and not you, he loves his kids more than he loves you, and you love him and possibly even love his kids. You are stuck being the least cared about person in the relationship forever. That doesn't make for a happy relationship. I can't speak for all guys, but that is the probelm I have dating women with kids.1
Most Helpful Girl
every situation is diff. my 2 children are under 10 and love my boyfriend. no father drama. he and i are clear with our new life. however, my boyfriend was very involve with his ex. s son. he played a much bigger role in their life. he was the "father" the "husband". because that boys father created a new family. (hope this make sense lol)
(one kid is much easier)
now that my kids fathers (my ex. husband) has 1/2 time with the kids. my boyfriend feels out of place and overwhelm at times due to having 2 very active kids around. I sense that at times he doesn't want to be around however i can tell he loves these kids.
so i feel resentful sometimes that he is not being as nice to me as he did with his ex.
every situation is diff.1
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