So I am 14 years old and engaged to a man who is also 15, our families are good friends and we have been engaged since we were young. I really like him and I do want to marry him, but I'm worried other Americans will look down upon us because we are arranged together. Also is it wrong to have sex while engaged? Should I wait until we're married?
Most Helpful Guy
There's no need to be worried about what others think, as long as you're truly happy with getting married to your future husband. Also, if both you and your fiancé believe you're ready to have sex before your married, then who are we to say otherwise about both of your sex lives?1
Most Helpful Girl
Americans, especially ones your age, are going to have a hard time understanding why you're engaged so you and why you are consenting to an arranged marriage. Honestly, it's just a cultural difference and there's nothing wrong with that. America is very individualistic... people tend to focus on themselves. There's nothing wrong with arranged marriages. :)
As for the sex issue, just make sure that it's something you both want before you do it. Don't do it because you're engaged, because culture tells you to, or because you feel like you have to. Do it because you want to and make sure it's what he wants too. There's nothing wrong with waiting though, so just do what feels right. Goodluck xx1