On an online dating website. How long should it take a girl to respond to a message? If she responds right away. Is that a bad thing?
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Nope. Respond right away if you can. Same goes for returning phone calls and all that. I don't know who came up with this idea that you should superficially delay your responses to avoid looking desperate. It's such a silly idea.
I'm pretty sure no one thinks like, "You know, she seemed nice but she responded to my message/call immediately, she must be a total loser. A really popular girl who is having an orgy with 10 guys should take at least 4 days to respond."
Who does that? I'm pretty sure it's close to no one.
So I think superficially lengthening the time of responses is just silly. It's good to avoid sending lots of messages to someone who hasn't responded, but it's perfectly fine to respond to a message as soon as you're available.2