I'm honestly trying to wrap my head around this. It just seems like whenever something bad happens in my boyfriend's life he pushes me away compeletly. I dont understand it because when something goes wrong in my life he's the first person I want to talk to about it or seek comfort with. I'm just so done. UGH.
We consider ourself strong, and try to keep things to ourselves. When you have trouble he asks and you share, he does not worries and try to fix it, while we think that if we share our bigger mess with you then you will be worried and Worrying about you that you are worried, is one more thing we need to worry about..
And when you will have period next time, you will be angry and you will have one more thing to whine about while you are emotionally heightened during periods.. And men can stand whining thus they try to shorten that list
He's doing it because he loves you. When something bad happens to me and I'm hurting, my natural reaction is to hurt something right back, be it physically or emotionally. Try and take it out on something. Worse I feel - stronger the urge. More often than not first person/thing that crosses your path is a good enough surrogate. Many guys are like this. Basically he's doing it to protect you.
For me. I would just need time to clear my head it's the last thing i want to do is explain my problems or pains about something unrelated to the relationship especially if it is work related. Some jobs are extremely stressful and its the very last thing i would want talk about with my SO... it would bring back those stressful feeling into the relationship... this maybe why? I don't know. It depends
its a guy thing. you dont wanna show that you are weak.
Maybe he's not on same level as you are in your relationship. I'm same. I push away all people except couple of close people when something bad happens.
However, it's most likely but not necessary that he's not on same level as you are. My best-est friend is like that. I know she's on same level of friendship as I am. She shares stuff but when it's too much she pushes me away. On other hand another friend talks to me about all the stuff.
Some people need comfort from anywhere they can get. Some people need comfort from very close people. Some people need to be left alone.
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