So I am currently studying abroad for a year and it has been mental so far (I've been here for about a month). I've been quite successful with the ladies on nights out and stuff, but I've met this one girl who I actually like, we've kissed a few times at parties and we went on a date the other day.
I really don't know if I should commit to one girl whilst I'm over here on this once in a lifetime experience, yet the one nights stands really don't do much for me on an emotional or mental level. I feel like if I were to keep seeing this girl it would get progressively more serious and we could end up dating for sure.
Any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated! Thanks 😊
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Most Helpful Girl
If you like her, continue to see her.5
Most Helpful Guy
" the one nights stands really don't do much for me on an emotional or mental level."
I think you just answered your own question. If you just want to have as many hookups with random partners that's fine, but based on that quote it seems like you're looking for more.
Sexual fulfillment is wonderful, but emotional fulfillment is equally great and not a mutually exclusive concept to sexual fulfillment either. I feel it tends to heighten the experience when you care about your lover on an emotional level.
If you want to chase a commitment then do so. So what if you're only there for a short period of time? There's no guarantee you can have a long standing relationship in your permanent place of residence. If there's something special between you and this girl you can make it work, but even if it doesn't last after you have to leave at least you made a connection with someone for a short period of time. You can look back later in life and know that it lasted as long as it could have which is better than wondering what could have been.0