I remember the first time I went out with a guy -- it was the guy I ended up marrying. I was so happy and filled with notions of romance, family, and other concepts that, looking back, were very wholesome and innocent. I was in my late teens/early 20s when we dated and got married. Everything I learned sexually I learned from him. He had a bit of experience before we married, which my family told me was natural for a guy and would help make my transition to my first sexual experience easier...
Years later I feel so sad to look at the many questions and posts here that have nothing to do with real relationships, with finding love or creating a healthy sexual relationship. There are SOOOOO many games and perverted posts/questions, OH, AND THE ENDLESS TROLLING. It's very disheartening.
Where has the value for a loving and respectful relationship gone?
My kids are the same way as @Dred1614 said, so I'm pretty sure there are more like-minded individuals that shares and practices the same values as this man does, so all is not lost.
It's funny how you put that though because if our grandparents and great-grandparents were alive today, they would have said the same thing about us and where our values for a loving and respectful relationship has gone.
Back in my father's days, he told me he used to go to the woman residence and serenaded her. This method of courtship was also during my grandfather's generation too. Their style in courtship still can be found in our generation and the generation after us, but it's like one in a million (figuratively speaking).
Courtships has been replaced by dating. Now, you can date as many men and women you like and choose which is more compatible with you before you dive into a committed relationship. Sure in some countries, courtships are still being practiced up to this day, untouched by the western world.
The most we can do, is guide them and hope to impart some of that lost legacy into the new gens.
I can see you are still very innocent. Being innocent is fine when you are still a kid, but there comes a time when innocence must go. It's time for you to look further than just what your family told you and finally discover the world. The values are still there, you are just looking at life throuh the eyes of a child.
You have several things to thank. Mostly the feminism movement in America. I can say that around the world there isn’t such a set of unrealistic expectations being forced upon young girls. Expectations like; you can have unemotional sex with anyone you want, your man should be gentle, cry, have soft hands, smell nice, treat you like a princess, do half or more of everything and be your shining knight. Hollywood and Cosmo have created this fantasy notion that women should be men and men should. That the Carrie Bradshaw character is how it’s supposed to be. Add to it that we now live in a “microwave” society where we expect everything to be perfect and if it’s not we move on to the next thing. Porn has become easily available and is the primary teacher for many about sex. Pile on all these idiotic apps like Tinder and such and you have a cesspool of Idocracy forming the basis of relationships and sexual interaction.
Women threw it in the trash when they started sleeping with guys without being in a relationship. Men put up with a lot from women just to get layed regularly. But now that they can get layed so easily, why put up with womens shit. You wanted everything in relationships to be mainly about women so now why would men want relationships. Sex was the only thing that forced us to put up with it.
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