like im 23 and still a virgin, I just feel so shy and ashamed im still a virgin... I feel really shy. How can I get over this shyness? I never had a boyfriend either because im shy.. ..
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I'm a 22 year old virgin and I'm not shy generally only when it comes to boys, dating and sex. I wish I could help because I've really been struggling with this as well and I know how horrible it is! I was s'posed to have a date tonight but freaked out and told him I was ill so we're going out some point next week. I'm really hoping I don't freak out again because eventually he's gonna think I'm not interested or just not worth his time. I used to go to counseling but stopped going and haven't been back for over a year. Now I need to try it again, I think you can get it free on the nhs if you talk to your doctor about your anxiety or I know Universities have a free counseling services - it's worth a try! If you're in a busy city you could try tinder or other dating websites and forums to get you used to talking to guys about sexual stuff. With tinder you can meet up with guys for dates and just get used to kissing in public. Don't be ashamed of being a virgin - if you're worried about that you can always do other things with a guy and say you've never tried it but wanted to ("Oh, I've never tried hickey's, fingering etc. before - can we try that?)", then when you actually have sex you'll have all these other cool moves! I think I'm in the same position as you since I feel like a terrified, innocent, virginal nothing a lot of the time but I know that I'm still young and this fear has given me a whole other perspective on life that other people won't have experienced, hopefully this has made me a patient, understanding, all-round better person. These are all ideas I've been playing around with in my head but never actually tried (the counseling thing hasn't worked yet but fingers crossed!). I hope they will be of use to you. Sorry for the huge weird essay! I just hate being in this state and don't want other people to be in this position. No matter what happens you'll be ok.1