I dated older guys. But lately I've been getting approached by guys a little younger than me. So now im wondering should i give it a shot. They say they are looking for a relationship but i find it a little hard to believe. I think at that age younger guys want to be free.
Im 27. I've been getting hit on by a 23 yr old. I gave him a chance. He said he liked me then went m. i. a for three days. Doesn't drink says he doesn't go to clubs he's mostly a homebody. But im starting to regret it a little. This is what triggered this question. Because he did say he wants a relashionship he doesn't like flings because he catches feelings. But i heard that plenty of times. Wondering if i made a mistake?
Yes, I want to be in a relationship and there's a good chance it's going to happen.
Your intuitions are for the most part correct. Many guys aren't quite mature enough to settle down because they are barely growing into themselves and learning what it feels like to be desired. Perspective must be developed to know what's worth pursuing.
In my case, I've asked out older women (late 20's) and as the obviously younger counterpart with a good head on my shoulders, I thought it would work. It turned out not to be the case. My body wanted sex all along and attraction quickly dissipated thereafter. No amount of reasoning could fix that.
Now I'm a bit older and know exactly what I want in a girl, and once she's in my life, I'll do everything in my power to make her feel loved. That's the attitude you want to see in a guy who claims to be serious.
I really do, hell I want to be married by 25, and I have turned down friends with benefits type deals, that being said I do value looks a lot and admit if I'm going to spend my life with a girl she must be at least a 7 looks wise, skinny frame, beautiful face, etc. and honestly, it seems like the guys I know (the few) who do want legit relationships seem to also admit the high standards on looks. I think it's that given we only want one, we expect more looks wise etc.
yes but the thing is there's a 3way split for guys in their 20s. there's 1. the guys that dont have problems getting girls they want and are either faithful or cheat. 2. the guys that are done with trying to look for something serious and are outright looking for sex or 3. the guys that realize most girls his age are playing games and want a older woman because she's less likely to be doing so.
yes i believe so, because i am one, i have tried flings/hookups and they never work because i either end up catching feelings or im just not into it, and honestly its the worst to hookup with someone and end up falling for them haha im currently in that boat with my best friend and its a tough one for sure.