Weve both agreed we want to and are sure of eachother. Its the best move for both of us financially and to get her out of her parents and closer to work. We mainly dont want other people judging us... should we care?
You shouldn't give a crap. I've done it sooner than you and I didn't care what people say and they did comment. I was a student, met my boyfriend on summer vacation and my new flat was available only two weeks after the beginning of classes. For two weeks I stayed at his place (we had been together for less than a month) and I never left. I had a flat, with almost no furniture on the side and was basically living with him... after a month. I kept my flat for another four month. I only slept one night in that flat and he was there.
People are judging because they think "what if they break up". Well, one of you would have to find another flat and that's it. Right now, you are happy, want to live together and share the expenses. It's perfectly normal.
If you feel you are ready to move in, you should be prepared for the naysayers. Not to be mean, but it will definitely test your relationship. What do her parents think about the situation?
You can't really prevent people from disagreeing with your lifestyle. But you both have to be ready for the criticisms.
My cousin got married really young, she was only 18 years old. And my family kept it a secret. I basically said, and still say to this day (because it's still a secret years later), that if she felt she was old enough to get married, she should be able to handle the criticism and face everyone.
I'm not saying what she did was wrong, but if you firmly believe what you are doing is right, then why worry about what other people say?
If it makes sense for you financially and romantically to be living together, then go for it! There is no set timeline for when people move in together. But make sure you both have a plan in case things go south.
I moved in with a guy who I had only been dating for about 5 months. It didn't work out, he was emotionally abusive and it was the worst time of my life. My work suffered as did I mentally and physically.
Just be prepared for the worst and hope for the best!
Moving in with a lover for the first time is really exciting. I think part of the reason I pushed for it so much is because I really wanted to believe my life was finally coming together. I have really struggled romantically to find partners who actually care and value me in relationships. And So I guess part of that was also pressure seeing all of my friends settling down, I wanted that too.
But just make sure you are actually sure of this before anything gets too serious.