I was playing truth or dare with friends and I kissed these two boys. I have a boyfriend and so do the boys. I broke up with my boyfriend because he wouldn't speak to me. The two girls broke up with there boyfriends (the ones I kissed). The girls were my friends and now there friends are giving me the silent treatment. It was a game. Is it cheating? What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
I think it is completely fair that someone would expect their significant other to not have sexual contact, or kiss, someone else. There is supposed to be exclusivity there.
I realize it was not your intention to hurt anything. I realize it was just a game. I realize you were not going to take things further than the kiss. But it IS, in a lot of ways, something that could be very fairly seen as cheating.
What should you do?
1) talk to the guys. Apologize for causing trouble, make sure they know it was just a game, and that what happened was not supposed to happen.
2) talk to your friends. maybe give it a little bit to cool down. explain how things happened, why, and that nothing else would have happened, that it was just a game. Then tell them that, looking back at it, you understand why it was a dumb move, that you didn't mean to hurt them, and apologize. grovel if you have to. it's humiliating, but even though you didn't mean to hurt anyone, your actions did so anyways. They deserve to hear a humble, even desperate, apology.
3) talk to your boyfriend. again, explain why things happen, and that you did not mean to hurt or upset anyone. assure him that if he gives you a chance, nothing like that would happen again. you thought it was just playing around, you see how serious he and everyone else too it, and you'll respect that in the future.1
Most Helpful Girl
Well... I think the most obvious advice, here, is: "Next time, you should pick truth."
What happened to... whatever the girl equivalent of bros-before-hos is?
Bitches before snitches?
Sisters before misters?
Dolls before balls? (In California, that rhymes)
Besties before testes? (I'm TRYIN' here...)
Y'all should stick together, already. Forgive. Forget. Laugh about it. Move on. Have a good time with yr lives.
Don't forget to gossip about how awful kissers they were. LOL
By the way, don't be afraid to be the first one to apologize to yr friends. "Hey, look, I'm sry about what happened. It takes two to tango, and, I'm 50 percent of that two."
Not worth losing a friendship over, babe.0