I (19F) recently went out with this incredibly interesting, smart, and funny guy (22M). He picked me up at my place and we talked the entire way, like we had been friends forever or something. The thought of fooling around hadn't occurred to me until much much later that night (around 2am?) when I invited him upstairs for a glass of water since he had to commute home. Anyhow, we're lounging on my bed and he actually leans in and asks if he can kiss me, which I allow and one thing leads to another. We didn't go all the way, however-- but not because I didn't want to. He was incredibly sweet the whole way and did make references to a second date.
It's only been four days since the date, and we've been talking as usual-- but no signs of a second date just yet.
What I'm wondering is if fooling around with him might've ruined my chances of being taken seriously or am I just giving this too much thought? HUHUHUH HELP
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Everyone is saying "it's ok, great, yupi"
I have to disagree. Imagine that he was indeed serious with you. He did lay all talk because he was genuinely interested. Then you call him into your home in the first date (i assume), and late in the night. And you end up fooling around, and he's the one that stops anything more from happening (this should indicate he's not just looking for sex, but also gives the perception that it was your goal)
Put yourself in his shoes: "she probably does it all the time.. ". I would be seriously thinking about what happened. I'm sure he didn't even blink about this when he was with you, but later, these thoughts are prone to appear.
If it was me, and I really liked you, then I'd be seriously confused. Because it's not about who you are, it's about what people perceive of you.
And to answer your question: yes. I would see you with different eyes - as someone who could do that just with anyone who chats nicely through a couple of hours. Because let's face it, it may seem like you know him for ages, but the truth is that you really don't. I hope everything turns out for the best, and that maybe I'm wrong here.2
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