So let me give you some context. When I was 16 years old my parents and I drove to the city for a local comic convention going on. I was waking around looking at stuff to buy and getting pictures with people in cool costumes.
Then I saw this girl in an amazing costume from a show I liked, she looked to be about my age. So I asked for a picture with her and she happily accepted. I later posted it on social media and when she saw the picture she messaged me and said it was nice to meet me and eventually we planned to meet up in a group of people at another convention.
That came and went and after getting to know each other better there we decided to hangout just the two of us. So we got coffee someplace a few days later.
That's where we really got to know each other better. Turned out she went to my highschool and we had a lot of similar interests. But I also got the unfortunate news. She was only 14.
Not only was she 14, it would be 9 months before she was 15 where as it would only be 4 months before I was 17. Translation, we had a 2 year 5 month age difference.
I had started growing feelings for her and after considering this for weeks I eventually decided to ask her on a date. I figured that most my friends that were girls were 16 and dating 21 year olds, so our age difference wouldn't be that weird.
I met her parents immediately and explained our situation to make sure they were okay with it and they said they were. As long as we took it slow.
So yes we've taken it slow, but 8 months later I still get comments about how I'm a pedo and going to hell. Am I?
- Yes you are.Vote A
- No you're not.Vote B
Most Helpful Girl
If you were a predator, you wouldn't be worried about this. You're okay. You're going about it the right way.1
Most Helpful Guy
No, a pedophile is someone who wants actual children, not teenagers who are legally underage (but so were you).
Legally you're probably sound, too, most age of consent laws have a 'Romeo and Juliet' clause to account for the fact that often in teen relationships one person will be above the age of consent and one below, provided the gap isn't too huge, there's no problem.1