During a business trip last year in France, I matched with a guy on Tinder but was too busy with work, I didn't meet him. We continued talking over whatsapp & Skype since June, at least 3-4 times a week, sometimes everyday.
I decided to travel around Europe for 3 weeks (just returned from my trip today actually). On my second day in Paris, he came to meet me, he's based in Bordeaux. We clicked so well and it felt natural as we have been talking for so long. I went to Barcelona for a week and when i returned, he got me the tickets to Bordeaux and asked me to come see him. It was a short weekend but a brilliant one. I then spent a week with him in Bordeaux as i had some businesses there. It was really sad to leave and go home. He asked me if i would move to France to live but I don't speak the language and it would mean i wouldn't be able to find a job similar to what i have now (i'm a marketing director for a wine importer/distributor in Vietnam). He also has a good job in France which he's not willing to give up. I know it's quite silly to ask him to move for me considering we just met in person a few weeks ago. I really like him and feel there's a sparkle between us.
Currently I'm still deciding on where to move to as I don't really fit in well in Vietnam. I was born abroad and lived abroad most of my life, returned to Vietnam 4 years ago because my parents wanted me to take over the family business (which i don't like). It would be better for me to move to an English-speaking country as my French is very basic.
What would you do if you were in my situation? I was in a long distance relationship before but it ended as my ex wanted to move to Brazil and i didn't want to go there. Would it be better to just stop all communications with him and get on with life? It would be painful to stay friends after all that great time we spent together.
Thank you for reading all that, looking forward to your advice :)
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It's a tough call. It seems like the chemistry and connection was their. It just sucks because you both can't relocate to each other areas. Long distance can work if both people want it to work. But it is tough and hard. It's so many obstacles that can stand in the way. Relocating is one. But you and him could still visit each other.1
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