I just started dating this guy and things got physical pretty fast, which I was fine with. However, I told him that I was embarassed by how forward I was. I didn't want have him to think that I was easy or had loose morals.
Truth is, I have some issues with getting physical with a romantic interest because years ago I was sexually assaulted and that can really mess a person up. I knew what was happening was written but I thought I could handle on my own. I couldn't. I regret not speaking out sooner and wish I had told the whole story. With relationships now, it just feels so dumb to say that i don't like my arms being held a lot or that I don't like my sides being touched. So I didn't say anything and pushed through how uncomfortable I was. I didn't want something that happened years ago to fuck up what I have going on now.
When I am with him I'm always afraid that later I will regret not saying something or wish I had set more boundaries.
Long story short when he asked why I'd be embarrassed I started crying and didn't want to tell him why. I know I have to tell him but I'm not sure how to without freaking him out.
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I have been through a very similar thing. And I have been with my boyfriend 2 years now. I had the same issues previously. I thought stuff it ill tell him the truth as I was also concerned about whether he'd freak out with the way I was being or freak out because of what happened anyway I bit the bullet and told him. It changed everything he understood how I was feeling and why I could behave the way I did. I'd tell him honey and tell him sooner rather then later. if he doesn't understand he's not worth it. =)0