It depends on the person. Everyone has their own time... Some never get there, but that's not so terrible either. Sometimes I really do console myself with the fact that I'm pretty happy on my own - because I like to do things my own way - when there's someone else there you have to always think of them as well. Not sure how restricting that could get... I've had my share of good and the bad in relationships - didn't have many, though.
Best to keep doing what you're doing and the rest will come if you stay open to it and keep socializing. =)
I'm in the same boat, but older. People don't like quiet people, or shy people. Lke they are deseased or something. I don't really know if I care for one anymore. It is a pretty weird feeling to feel so different than other people, but I would say that other people had a huge impact on my shyness and becoming more introcerted.. I don't know how to be 'normal', so I guess love and stuff like that isn't in the cards. If it is, I would need a girl/woman who actually speaks her intentions rather than just flirts from far away