I've been online dating for a year and met several men, maybe half my dates have wanted to see me again. However not in a serious sense. The one guy I did date more than a handful of times was 52 and he disappeared on me after a NYE date. He claimed to be single and had a grown up. son. is it possible that me having 2 younger kids 11&8 put him off but he didn't want to admit it or that he was hoping I'd be desperate to seduce him as I've been single for 3 yrs?
When I met the woman who became my wife, I was a newly divorced man with custody of a 4 year old son. We met on eHarmony after I had been a member there for 7 months. She had two daughters of her own (10 & 15 years old) from a previous marriage.
That was more than 11 years ago. In June we will have been happily married for 10 years.
There is success to be had in online dating even as a single parent. With my experience, I can speak to both sides of the issue. I've dated as a single parent and I've dated (and married) a single parent too.
Being a single mum is far more attractive than being in a relationship or married lol. Yes it's true some men will be put of by you having children off course. However this should be seen as a good vetting system your children are part of you so if a guy wants you but not them then no thank you were the complete package. Better to find out now than before feelings develop.
I admit, its hard seeing myself put into a situation where I am an instant dad, especially if we hit if off, Im sorry, it is harder for single mothers, a guy does want the responsibility of another mans child, but with that being said, there is someone for everyone and you just need to find the right guy. But the guy MUST love both you and your child, he can't love one more than the other, you are a package deal and there is no negotiations, either he accepts and commits to you and your children or he gets the hell out. Don't settle for anything else... good luck!