I don't know if this is some kind of devaluation of the male ego or what, but some men seem to really hate the idea that a girl wouldn't immediately have sex with him, but let other guys do that previously. Why is this? If anything, it should be a compliment.
Most Helpful Guy
It is partly an ego thing but also it leads us to believe that your level of sexual desire was greater for the guys you slept with right away. I do think its common for girls to be pickier and have higher standards for casual sex but then lower their standards for relationships. So its like "youre not as hot or exciting as the guys I would have sex with right away but if you romance me for a while I'll give you a shot".
I dont like the idea of a girl who is hard to get because I enjoy waiting for sex. The appeal is that if I wait for sex and finally get to sleep with her Ill feel special that Im one of a small number of people. However if I wait for sex for a girl who has slept around and had sex right away with other guys there's not much appeal to that situation.
Rather than the "good girl who is bad just for you" its the opposite "the bad girl who turns good just for you". She was slutty and sexually foward with all those other guys and then suddenly becomes the "I like to take things slow" girl only when she meets you.
Most Helpful Girl
You know, I asked a similar question about "born again virgins." Or basically, women who had sex, but now want to wait. Out of the twenty-odd men who responded, only three said that they'd be okay or somewhat okay.
But the others gave me in-depth explanations on why not the newly turned celibate girl.
Their reasons were:
1. Her decision makes them question if they're good enough for her
2. Puts her "pussy on a pedestal" and it isn't fair
3. Shows that she's either insecure and\or indecisive, therefore not good girlfriend material
4. She sounds irrational
Do I agree with their logic? Not entirely, though I understand where they're coming from.1
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