Okay, so I am half black and half white. I was raised on the white side of my family, and therefore identify with white culture.
Now, I have struggled with self identity issues for a long time, starting from about 4th grade. So I started straightening my hair to fit in with white girls. This helped, so I happily kept it up until almost two years ago, when I got sick of it and decided to go natural.
Cutting my hair off and letting my curls out was probably the best decision of my life. I finally felt like what I was, Mulatto, and I gained a lot of self confidence.
This, however, changed recently when I met my current boyfriend of about 6 months. He is Korean (SOUTH, don't even think about making a North Korean joke -_-), and he says that I am the most beautiful girl he's ever seen, and that he fell in love when he first saw me.
But, the other day we were talking about our celebrity crushes (this was a mistake on my part) and he said he liked this woman (I forgot her name) but anyway, she's white. That's not a huuuuge deal, I didn't really care that much. Then the other day when we were at the laundromat waiting for laundry to get done, and we're looking at magazines. All of a sudden, he kept saying that some girls were really pretty, and I looked, and they were all white. I noticed that he seemed to have a type... white girls. So, it started kind of bugging me inside.
Eventually he admitted that when he first came to the states he liked white girls, because in Korea they're considered really beautiful. But then he said that he wishes I would stop worrying because he likes me and chose me, and that I'm kind and beautiful and he doesn't want anyone else.
So, what can I do to take my boyfriend's words to heart more? How can I gain confidence so that I can stop feeling inferior to white girls? Thanks!!
A quick update to this question:
I have now come to terms with everything, thanks to all of you. What I was thinking was really silly, and I didn't know how to handle it, so I made this post. But most of you were really kind and offered great advice that allowed me to find a solution to my problem rather quickly, so I'm so happy and really grateful!!!
So a quick thank you to everyone who posted a response, and hopefully I can help you guys in the future too!!
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Listen to what he says and observe how he treats you.
I'm a white guy and while most girls I could rattle off whom I like are white, there are PLENTY of girls of all races and ethnicities that I see throughout the day who are drop dead gorgeous and who I'd date in a heartbeat!
It has more to do with the individual person than the group as a whole, I've been super attracted to black chicks before, though in general I wouldn't say that I am. I briefly dated an Indian chick who was HOTTT, though I wouldn't say I'm necessarily attracted to Indian chicks in general.
Same for other races as well. And believe me, white chicks aren't given a pass just based on their whiteness, even with them it depends on the individual person.
He probably wouldn't be with you if he wasn't physically attracted to you, regardless of your ethnicity.
Hell, he might think of you as being exotic, something kind of rare / uncommon (comparatively speaking, to the sea of "purebreeds" of any ethnicity that exists in the United States)0