I am 17 and I go to Duke University. My boyfriend plays basketball for the Blue Devils. He cheats on me with A LOT of girls, but he always buys me stuff and takes me places when he does. There's this guy who I like and I wanna experience him. Do you think my boyfriend will get mad if I sleep with him? I'm scared to ask him, because he might break up with me.
What are you? dull in the head? he CHEATS on you!! and you know it and are worried he would be mad? look at it this way, he is having his fun, have yours... or if you are afraid to lose him because of all the "perks"... still have your fun. you obviously don't like him cheating... but you won't leave because of the other perks you get from him...(victim's dilemma) .. thats why i say... Do what you want... and if he finds out... let him know he started it, so he can't complain...
Men think they can cheat and it's fine. But my GOD, if you want to see a man get pissed and dump you quicker than anything, then you cheat on him. It doesn't matter if he cheats on YOU constantly, he will dump you.
With that said, why are you monogamous with him? Fuck THAT! You are young, go date around. You can do what he does and not tell him about it. Why would you even tell him about it unless you want to start a fight or get dumped? No, do not ask him about it unless you want to get dumped. If he's using you as a part time girlfriend and you want to use him as a part time boyfriend, just do it. Don't be his loyal girlfriend while he runs around on you. Respect yourself!!! Id honestly say end it completely but you have perks that you like I guess.
So you're only with your boyfriend now because you love the fact that he buys you things after he cheats on you. That's pretty shallow.. I'd feel bad for any guy ignorant enough to wish the he was your boyfriend. You're boyfriend does not love you, and why he buys you things, I don't know. He maybe one of those"must be in a relationship types", and you're the only one he's sure will tolerate his crap as long as he buys you things. Your relationship with him is unhealthy. To respond to your question: Cheating on your boyfriend will make you just as dirty as he is. Despite him cheating on you frequently, he'll still probably get mad.
I apologize for coming off a bit harsh, but your situation is disgusting and devoid of love. I think you're both being a bit selfish.
What? No, you shouldn't cheat on him. I mean I can understand that your boyfriend cheats on you but then you should not do the same thing to him, then there will be no difference between you and him, right?
I mean let your class be higher than him. Hence you need to make up your mind and just break up with him. cheating is an unforgivable act and should never be forgiven.
Hence logically speaking you should immediately break up with your boyfriend. Yes I can understand you want to experience things with the other guy and you also like him, but then there is no need to cheat.
Break up, be single again and then you can do whatever you want to do.
If he cheats on you then why don't you break up with him? He is an asshole for cheating but you cheating on him just makes you as bad as him. Either break up with him or don't but don't cheat unless you want that to be what your known for? Because its goig to damage your reputation not his.
He'd probably be mad and at least hurt. He's justified himself experimenting with other girls while with you. If you want to stay with him and experiment I think you're justified to do that. He may want to break up with you obviously. You wanting to sleep with another guy may diminish his feelings. If I were you I would be with other guys if you want. I think you wanting to try sex with another guy may actually be a sign you've lost some feelings of closeness for him. If he did break up with you, I bet you'll find a guy that will be satisfied with just you eventually.
I'm going to give you some valuable life advice: don't have any expectations of fidelity or a future with a D-1 college athlete who plays a major sport. Dirtiest dicked guys on campus, 9 times out of 10.
Yes he would, and he would be right to do that even tho he cheated on you.. two wrongs do not make a right in this case.. what you should do in my opinion is get rid of the cheater.. and find some guy that only has eyes for you.. when a guy cheats once he will always cheat more.. as some guys always want more.. it tells me he has no feelings for you.. but he does know he can sweet talk you into what he wants.. it is all about him hope all works out for you down the road
Normally I hate gold diggers, but if he cheats on you, burn his wallet as much as possible. That's basically the best revenge to get. Hit him where it hurts
I'm sure he'd be mad, so don't tell him
If he doesn't care about you, and you don't care about him, why not?
However, it depends on why you're staying with him. If you're just using him for an atm at this point for revenge, it's fine. If you're somehow holding out hope that he'll stop cheating and focus on you, you're delusional as hell
Ummm yea... you need to chill lol. Drop the asshole and get with other dude if you do want to go that route, That's you bringing yourself down to his level. Stay classy and be better than that, by the way worry more about that degree and becoming independant and removing the drama for right now.
"What is Good for the gander, is Good for the Goose" here, dear, and if you should decide to 'Sleep with him,' silence is the Golden egg and don't whisper a word. He never gave a rat's behind when he jumped in the sack of feed with Those in Need, so why even bother To.. Holler? I am sorry to say, for it seems you are not even aware of it, your honey bunny is putting your so-called "Relationship" in an "open Relationship" where he is having Fun with Everyone under the Sun and doesn't care that you Know it and that he is and Will... Show it. My advice to you being you are an Enabler for him to Continue this Full Circle Problem Pattern, sit him down, have a Pet serious talk with him, and Tell him that you think that being he is Out and About with every Jane the Same that you will Also... Do the same. This relationship is Not healthy, it is One sided and you are getting the Short end of his Dick and Dip stick. Good luck. xx
Why are you with this guy? Sounds like you are pretty materialistic if you just let that shit slide because he takes you out and buys you things.. I would be considering this more of an open relationship if you let it continue but if it is hurting you then why the hell stay with him and let him do that to you? You're 17, if I could go back to 17 and be single and forget about my stupid cheating boyfriend I would! I didn't know he cheated on me but when I found out I left! Best feeling ever. The freedom is amazing.
Instead of asking if it is OK to cheat on him, you should be breaking up with him!! And even, how do you know he cheats? Does he blatantly tell you in your face? or just get's caught by people you know? Why would you put up with an asshole like that, only because he "buys you stuff" ? Come on girl, have some self respect please
Are you only staying with him because he buys you stuff and takes you out? I'm sure he hasn't asked you for permission to be with those other girls. I honestly wouldn't want to be with someone who is like that anyways. You're relationship is a mess. You have tendencies to experiment with a guy (who isn't your boyfriend), and your boyfriend is cheating on you with girls..
Honestly that would be extremely immature on ur behalf and he is a dick why would u stay with him and u know he fucks around on u? Respect urself and leave him. He does it cause he knows u will take him back-_-Y'all just wasting time. Idgaf if a MF bought me an exotic pet jaguar from Dubai with a pink bow on it's ass... I'd rather be alone than unhappy. You deserve better. you're Beyonce baby... not Michelle don't settle for this kind of treatment.
What the hell is wrong with you why do you think that's ok? To be in a relationship like that? Didn't anyone teach you better. You think this is healthy. He doesn't love you if he does this all the time and you are dumb for knowing he does it so much and thinking it's ok you need to leave him!
Yeah he'll be mad but go for it. He deserves it, and you deserve whatever happens as a consequence for being idiotic enough to stay with someone who is bound to give you an STD at one point or another.
He will be mad, but may I ask why are you still with him? Are you okay with him cheating? If so, maybe an open relationship is the right way to go for you. If he wants to cheat that badly he should allow you to do the same.
He'll still be mad if you do it behind his back though.
If a man cheats on me I would leave him because I'm better then that and deserve a true man who won't cheat on me and if he is cheating on you u need to get tested for diseases and find a man who would treat u right and would never cheat on u they are out there