I am already 28, and yet never had a gilfriend. I try to date for few years, but all the time girls start to ignore me very quickly, last one said that I'm creepy few days ago.
That's strange for me, as while I am introverted, I have good social skills and plenty of activities - I work as a college tutor, obtain second higher degree at the same time, volunteer for students with learning disabilities, and spend lots of time on social and political activism - grassroots campaigns, help for homeless and veterans. I also speak several languages, travel a lot and sometimes publish articles on historic topics.
I have many male friends, and some of women 40+, but again - I never had any luck with younger ones, and it devastates me. Good appearance doesn't help as well, so as confidence.
Really, don't know what to do - I tried everything from online dating to friends' assistance for years, with no result at all.
Because of this, I feel very lonley. Enough to think about suicie rather often.
Most Helpful Girl
"I have good social skills"
According to whom? Just being able to talk to people is not the same as having good social skills.
Are you actually engaging? Do people thrive on your conversation topics and can't get enough of your company? Do you have charm? Charisma? Chutzpah, even?
If you're a boring person to be around, women will not want to date you no matter how many hobbies you have or how successful you get. Sure, you'll get the usual gold diggers looking to make a quick buck, but romance wise you'll be unfulfilled.
Since you've pretty much listed traits of a "catch", the only thing that's left is how you come across to people and your mates are doing a very poor job at being honest with you. Strangers on the internet will not be able to pinpoint what exactly is that's repelling women unless we could observe you in action.
Ask for complete honesty in regards to how you carry yourself, because at the moment it seems your friends and family are just being nice. Nothing you say in written response is gonna matter here because how you perceive yourself is ENTIRELY different how others perceive you.
You need honest tough love type 3rd party feedback.0
Most Helpful Guy
This is all well and good... BUT one thing that you DIDN'T mention,
is how many women you approach in real life (online dating should not be something one spends a lot of time on in my opinion; not worth the investment cauz women are WAY pickier on there).
Secondly, this introversion HAS to be BROKEN! We as males are the expendable sex, the "haves and have nots" sex, so u gotta get it together. Start being more talkative with social with people, and get out of your fucking head and stop fucking analyzing and dissecting the possible results of EVERY little thing you do. Be spontaneous, take risks.
Socialize with women casually, don't overly press yourself to impress them or pressure yourself to "ask them out that moment". Talk casually, ask her name, if she doesn't have a wedding ring on, casually ask for her phone number like it's no big deal. A common thing I say is "I may never see you again so let me get your phone number".
Trust me, this nonchalance type of attitude works, because in the woman's mind she will think that you have other feminine options for companionship lined up so that means you are "pussy approved".
Whether or not you DO have other woman options available or not is none of her business, let her THINK you do. ;-)0