I think it depends. For me personally, whether or not it was a date or an outing with a friend, if there wasn't some kind of agreement that you would both be paying for your own meals/splitting the bill, etc. then I expect the person who asked to pick up the bill. Because maybe the other person can't really afford it and if they had been aware from the get go that they would be paying they would have said no.
It's not like I just expect guys to buy my meals for me, I just expect everyone to follow that, including myself. If I ask a friend out to eat, or for coffee, etc, I pay, unless we already have a different understanding (like habitually go for coffee and we each pay for our own). Where there is no precedent date or outing, the terms for paying should be set out beforehand and it's on the person asking to make sure those terms are clear, or else it's perfectly fair for the other person to assume that you're picking up the tab.
I wouldn't expect anything from a guy on a first date. I'd assume we were spilitting the bill. If he insisted he should pay then I'd insist that I'd pay the next time. I would never want a guy under the assumption I was dating him for financial gain. If I had no intention of seeing him again then I'd certainly pay for my half.
You know I couldn't answer your poll. I dont believe in A, that a guy should pay, in fact on my first date with my boyfriend we went to the movies and he bought my ticket and soda after I told him I was doing something else so he wouldn't pay for it and I cried because it was so nice. And B Yes, MOST girls do expect guys to pay for every meal. That is not how its done between us, its usually based on whoever has more money at the time, who just got paid, or if its a really fancy place we split it (Unless a special occasion and he's feeling generous) and also we do the whoevers idea it was to go out pays when we can't decide who pays.
Do I expect it? Yeah I'm quite traditional when it comes to this. Do I want him to pay? No I don't want to feel like owe him something and that I need to repay him somehow. So in a perfect situation he would ask to pay and I will refuse, he will insist butI would pay for myself
Yes. It shows the woman that the man is a gentleman, respectful, that he values her and her time, that he appreciates her accepting the invitation to go on a date, and that he is caring. I've never had a man do that, but I would not go on a second date with any man that did. It tells a girl a lot about a man's character honestly. So maybe stop doing that. Reserve the bill splitting for when the relationship progresses. On the first date is kind of a red flag
My rule is: the one who invites is the one to pay.
If I ask him out (which I have), paying is my responsibility. If he asks me out, it's his responsibility. BUT even so, I'd still offer to split the bill. I usually go for broke guys, and I'm not saying they're "cheap" because they didn't pay. Literally unemployed or working few hours.
My first date... i paid for us! but he really fought me on it though! didn't help that he was from Russia and had a firm belief that men should pay! cuz if they didn't that means they have "no balls!" his words not mine. But i won of course :) take care
I like to go Dutch. I don't like the idea of being bought. But many guys insist. Sometimes they say you get it next time which is awkward if I don't wanna see them again. One time I paid whilst this guy was in the bathroom and he said I was emasculating him.
If he chose the place and its expensive then yes. If its the first date and he asked me out then yes. I would expect it when its my birthday too and valentines. Maybe anniversary too or if he surprised me.
Everything in between I would expect halfies. And I would pay on his birthday or if I asked him out/ took him somewhere/ surpised him.
However, If i know this guy is poor then i will offer to split as long as i have the money because I too am very poor.
Alright man... this depends on circumstances. If you already met, hit it off, banged this girl previously, etc. and then you asked her out, then the check is on you. However, if this was a first time tinder date or something and you aren't feeling it... then make her pay half, nothing wrong with that.
Some do, some don't, every girl is different. If both are equally well off AND the guy don't want to pay; spitting is more appropriate. Since u two have different value, then a second date is prolly not a good idea. She prolly wouldn't be down for it to.
That's why I don't do wine'n'dine. I eat to survive not for recreation purposes. Yes, it makes sense you would pay or argue against her paying. On othe other hand, I wouldn't care, I'm not going to suck up to a woman just because she's a woman, no matter who she is.
It's odd because I personally think you should offer to pay, but she should offer to pay her own part first. So if she EXPECTS to be paid for BECAUSE she is female, then she isn't really worth dating in my opinion.
Depends on the girl but y not? Ur a confident, charming, smart, & hard-working young man. The way i think bout myself by the way so if it doesn't work out at least i only spent a little over $20 on her onto the next one lol
I always try to pay for dates because it seems more right lol
The current arrangement is that whoever asked the other one out offers to pay it and then the other person objects once to be polite. The first person insists at which point person two decides if he/she wants to be cheap about it or not.
But yes, if you asked her out, be ready to pay for two. If she asked you out... Be ready to pay for two. Just, if you have to, that's really poor manners on her part.
She did you a favour and showed you that she wants more from you than she will offer in the relationship. Throw her to the curb.