This question is always really difficult to answer.
A lot of it really depends on the severity. I feel like judging datability is a sum of all the features of the person, not just one specific area. I wouldn't reject someone just for the sake of having a disorder, but I would reject someone depending on the effects of the disorder... if that makes any sense.
For instance, I am friends with some people who have struggled with depression and anxiety issues. I wouldn't really be able to tell though for the most part unless they mentioned it to me.
Basically, if I imagine the disorder or such to be an obstacle that would drive a wedge between us and make it difficult to progress in a relationship, I don't think I would be able to date them. It'd be a friend zone kind of situation. If I imagine the disorder not severe enough and as something we could overcome in the relationship, then yeah sure-- I'd take a shot.
Seeing as I have a mental illness, then yeah, I'd date someone with them. I might have to think twice about it because if their illness will affect me and make mine worse then I'm gonna have to put my health first, y'know? But as long as we didn't make each other ill, then it'd be fine.
Probably. Depends on the severity, though. We all have certain traits that would fall into a category of known "mental illnesses", however only if it becomes detrimental to daily lives, then we can identify it as a a genuine "mental disorder". That said, I do have some OCD and ADHD tendencies myself, albeit they don't affect me in any significant way. I'll probably overlook the these attributes, and attributes simlar to these in a potential person I'm dating. However, I wouldn't date a person who has a mental illness that affects the general happiness of people in their vicinity 😐
Depends. A year ago I dated someone who was borderline/histrionic PD.
Would I do it again? A resounding NO. She became extremely clingy very fast. Within 2 weeks of dating she was threatening me with violence if I tried "escaping". She even showed me a bloody dress and said: "That is what happened to the last guy". Her idea of dirty talk was showing me her medications and telling me which ones she would use to drug me. After I peaced it, well she kept harassing me for 3 more months.
Depression and anxiety, if managed, yes. Although I consider girls who talk about depression and anxiety on the first date a BIG RED FLAG.
I have a mental illness, so yeah I'd date another person with one. Although if you have one and are wondering how people will view you it's always better to keep it a secret until absolutely necessary or when you've already built up a good relationship.
It really depends on what it was and how severe it is, mental illness is everything from mild OCD or anxiety to full blown psychosis.
I've had pretty bad depression and I actually had to be honest to a couple of girls I dated that I wasn't ready to see anyone. I could hardly get out of bed and buy shit from the store, let alone maintain a relationship and have a job.
I have, and it sucked sometimes, but I have anxiety so I understand. I think the most important thing is whether they're willing to work on it and acknoledge that they have these neuroses, and that some of their behaviors are caused by them. If they act like they're right all the time and don't need any help and are not self-aware, then it's probably not going to work.
All women are like that so, it's not worth it. You either fuck and leave to avoid wasting your time with women or you keep the relationship without giving two shits about her until she breaks up with you.
in my case, i'm the person with mental illness~ i developed an anxiety disorder in my mid 20s, and there were days that i felt like an unlovable aberration, though my man never stopped loving me.
i'm on meds now, and he's watching to make sure that my personality doesn't change... so far, he says they're working (other than the fact that they make me super-tired and i sleep about 18 hours a day now), which is a welcome relief.
in the past, i've dated people with mental illness, and it didn't bother me. as with any illness, it becomes part of your life, and you adapt accordingly.
First, anxiety is not like the rest. Unless it's dibilitating anxiety, which is less common. Second, I will never date someone with bipolar disorder again. That man royally screwed me up. That was mentally and emotionally abusive.
My best friend ( boy ) is bipolar, has depression and anxiety problems. I'm like the rock that holds him down to Earth. Even though he has problems and sometimes is a bad person to be next to. He's my best friend and I won't want him to change for me.
I voted I would never. I just don't see myself being able to handle my bad days AND another person's eternal bad days. I couldn't stand to see someone I care about in pain and not even knowing it like a schizophrenic
I have a friend at work who has borderline personality disorder and she really and I mean is hell of a lot of work I mean I find it draining having to walk on eggshells at work to not upset her so I think from my experience I would find it difficult.
I'm not carrying someone else's baggage with me. Sorry
It depends on the person and what kind of mental illness. Mild depression and anxiety I would be able to, but I tried dating someone that was bi-polar and I am not able to do that again.
It's like treading on fire. Even I'm friends with people with these mental disorders (former drug addicts or doing soft drugs), i do get burnt by them so as a result, i keep my distance but i won't discriminate them.
Yes because I have many mental
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