Pretty much the same way you speak to guys, but less about sports or boobs. How do you speak to a guy you're trying to befriend? Make your intention to make (female) friends at the start, if you feel like the girl is a nice dateable person who also seems to like you, it's time to actually flirt. Stand a bit closer, look her in the eye while making slightly dirty jokes... I had this guy I kinda liked walk up to me with 2 bananas. He wickedly smiled at me, described the shape of the two and then asked me which one I liked better. Funny, original and daring. It would've been creepy if we weren't friends yet though.
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You'll always look desperate in girls eyes whenever you approach them.
Hence why girls timidly ask here "Will he think I'm desperate if I approach him?" where us guys reply "Noooo!", just so that girls start to approach.
So, girls think they look desperate if they approach guys - and vice versa
Lay it on her softly.. Like, "heya how is it going" so on and so forth.. Don't be like this guy on the bus i encountered. Sits next to me and says, "Hey, you're so beautiful... wanna go out?" Like nah man..
Correct way: "Hey, how are you?" "Would you like to go get a pizza?" Wrong way: "What's up shawty?" "Hey babygirl" It sounds SO fuckboy to say that when you guys aren't even dating. Maybe save it for later.
1. Speak like a gentleman, like a true man. Be confident.
2. Make sure you are not flirting, never use cheap language or sexy tone don't use any such words or language that can make the woman even assume that you are flirting, I mean don't give her the chance to assume that you are trying to flirt, don't give her the chance to misunderstand you. Hence you need to be always cautious and careful regarding the words you choose while speaking to a woman.
3. This may not be a point, but I would suggest while talking to a woman you should keep it to the point, don't be too casual and jovial with her.
Lol... if you are scared of coming off as creepy when you talk with women you will NEVER succeed, I promise you that.
An element of finding people of the opposite gender is risk. One girl (who likes you) might be flattered if you tell her that her figure is sexy. Another girl (who doesn't like you) will be offended. And of course you can only find out by making such a compliment in the first place. Anyhow, you will only become successful with women when you learn to not give a fuck.
I talk to all sorts of women pretty much every week. 9/10 give me the eyes/walk away, etc. Do you think I care? Nope. Because that leaves 1/10 who do truly like me!
Your intention shouldn't be to try to sleep with her/pick her up, unless it's obvious you're both wanting something casual. I think girls can easily sense the vibe you're giving off to them. There's this dude in one of my college classes and it's obvious he's a fuckboy. Don't even talk to him/know him much and yet I know that he is reading some seduction book and is only talking to the attractive girls in the class. I'd be surprised if none of those girls picked up on his bad intentions already
By not trying too hard. girls knows this and they will think if you are not being yourself, it means you are faking and its creepy cos they don't know you. and yes, first impressions do last. specially with girls you are approaching for the first time. so, relax. try to be yourself so you won't send a different message she might misunderstand.
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