Just found out from a friend that my ex dated a guy 3 years ago and after finding out he was cheating on her she slept with his best friend as revenge. Is this a major red flag?
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Revenge cheating is undignified and counterproductive. However, being cheated on is an extremely painful and upsetting thing to experience. I'm not sure that I would judge someone based on something they did while they were dealing with something so difficult (unless they committed a violent crime, which is ALWAYS a red flag). In addition to that, this was three years ago, and she might have changed in that amount of time.
If she's a wonderful girlfriend to you, cares about you, and treats you with respect, then I don't think I would be too concerned about what she did three years after being cheated on. Unless, again, it was a violent crime or something else very extreme. And revenge cheating, while a bit low, is ultimately not an overly extreme reaction to being cheated on.0