My boyfriend is 31 he has never met his dad because his mom hid him from him his whole life. His mom was a bad mother so he has not talked to her since he was 18. He has a job at a statup where he works from home. He gets to pick his own work hours. He moved to this city two years ago. He told me he had a tough childhood and basically supported himself his whole life. He went to college at 24 and got his degree. Since moving to this city two years ago he has yet to buy a car. He could prob use braces. I know all these thins sound harsh and superficial but should I assume he is a loser? I really like him but I'm worried because I come from a wealthy family. I don't want my family to think I'm dating a bum.
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Wow, that sounds really cold when you think it's about someone you love and have been dating for two years, and has proposed to you.
He has only moved into that town two years ago and works at home. He can't probably afford a car yet, but it doesn't seem like he needs one now either.
Rather than him being a loser, if you're asking us if you should marry him, the answer lies in you: are you prepared to make sacrifices in order to be with him? Work together in order to build a better life for yourselves and future family? Do you love him enough to accept his faults?
Maybe he's not the son-in-law most parents would dream of but, from your description, there's nothing wrong with him per se (no alcohol, no drugs or other vices?).
Just understand he probably needs someone he can trust and who is a resilient person like himself. He thinks that person might be you.0