I wanted to ask a guy out to lunch, but I got too nervous to ask. So instead I asked "Have you had your lunch yet?" and his response was "Nope, I think I'll have some later on".
Was that not enough of a hint? Should I just brave this one out and ask him?
Most Helpful Guy
Yes, be brave. With all due respect, hinting is for whimps. Would you want him to "hint" at getting together, or would you want him to be bold and direct and say, "I want to get to know you. Have lunch with me." Boys and young men are used to thinking much more literally than most women, who seem to simply use language to "read between the lines." This female approach is all about attempting to not hurt some one's feelings. In other words, it's caretaking, and something that should be saved for children. Adults need a more direct, yet respectful approach, unless you want to spend your entire life trying to figure out what the hidden message is in a statement. I actually had an ex respond to my question, "Do you have a fork?" with "what do you mean?" What it meant was, do you have a fork. That's it. I think women get so used to this vague, hinting, inuendo that they actually lose track of reality. In your question, "Have you had lunch yet?" you are expecting HIM to take responsibility for YOUR fear and say something to prevent you from feeling WHAT YOU ARE ALREADY FEELING--FEAR. Feel your feelings and accept them. They are not death, they are merely feelings! They will not kill you, and they will pass. Men have the same sort fear of their feelings. Much of caretaking prevents people from feeling their actual feelings and responding to them in a healthy manner. Instead, caretaking distracts people from their feelings, and suggests that you are a victim merely for feeling what your body is designed to experience! So, be direct. It's the truth that everyone really wants.1
Most Helpful Girl
Worst hint ever.2