Ok so here's the deal.
im a 28 year old woman who recently got back her man after a 3 month breakup.
We have been together now about 9ish months.
here's the problem, he is gorgeous and I mean GORGEOUS.
He works full time as a personal trainer and a fitness model, and also has previously worked as an underwear model and has the best body I have ever seen.
He has the most perfect face, hair, hands, everything.
Is over 6feet tall... Just a very attractive man.
When I met him first I was dating him as a rebound and didn't think too much of if.
Me on the other hand haven't seen the inside of a gym for over a year, am "okish" looking and am not skinny or fat just somewhere in between.
My problem is this, he has woman throwing themselves at him. If we go for a walk, to a club woman literally stop and stare and yes stop him.
Woman take his number from his personal training profile at the gym and have actually sent him naked photos.
He has been very honest about this and thinks it's desperate and disgusting that woman do this.
I have no reason to suspect he is being unfaithful as he always comes around when I ask him and I have full access to his phone at all times as he leaves it lying around.
All his friends and famiky love me, and he has spoken of our future together.
i just can't help shake this feeling of insecurity at all, and feel like "why the hell would he want me" when he could have models and very beautiful woman.
He doesn't know I feel like this at all.
I know looks aren't everything, his looks are just a bonus to his funny and sweet caring personality.
We split before as I was insecure and constantly picking fights, then he wanted to work things out.
can someone give me advice please?
I dated a guy before who wasn't that great looking for 5 years and he cheated..., I guess I'm thinking to myself that my boyfriend will too.
I've never sent him naked photos or have even told him that I think he's amazing as I don't want to be the same as "those" girls.
He's very proud of me, and when I'm with him and he's on the phone to his friends he puts me on the phone to them to talk to them.
I guess I need to work on me and be happy and go with it
Most Helpful Guy
It's a matter of confidence.
I think at 28 you're at an age where you should have understood by a long time that life doesn't last forever and that it absolutely doesn't matter what people who are outside your own social circles do or think.
I've had some girls chicken out on me because they were convinced I had tons of girls being after me- which is not true.
The fact that you are actually familiar with his family and that they accept you means, that you're the one they see as a great match for their son - and not those other women who send him nudes and so on
Have you ever talked to him about how you feel about other women trying to steel him from you?
what you're having there is an unresolved conflict, and conflicts can only be solved by talking about the issues that cause it.
It's not that difficult to solve this issue1
Most Helpful Girl
its not about looks! looks are what reel them in, personality is what keeps him. Work on your body and getting as fit as possible and also keep a fresh rotation of nice clothes in your wardrobe, in other words keep yourself up. Besides that don't fall into the trap many women fall into that its about looks. I think he sounds like a good guy if everything you said is true. And he probably really likes you if he's willing to work it out. Really "pretty" girls are usually somewhat high maintenance because they know they can get a lot of attention. Most guys just want a girl that's down to earth that he likes and supports him. the looks are a plus. But confidence is a must.. just speaking from personal experience and what I've observed from the girls that get a man and actually keep him. I hope it works out for you, you sound like a genuine person!1