age 21 with 2 year old child
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Yes, I would give it a trial run but no expectations it might go the distance.
Here's the baggage that worries me but each/all could be hurtled:
> two made a baby, one is gone... someone has decision making retardation, regardless of circumstances details
> age 19 preg w/o a dedicated legal hubby... someone dies what they want, when they want, if it feels good or I just wanted it that way thinking might do something life changing like this again and whoever's on board either stays for the ride or jumps ship... like the last one?
> kids must be #1 in caretakers lives, which includes me if in this deal, less time to forge a romance, which usually comes first and once a firm foundation established, begets the idea to bloom love in person form as well. A stormy beginning that often sinks ships, the new guy gets ignored a lot and expected to give, give give to make this work & be smooth sailing.
> the ex could be a jerk always screwing with anything & everybody, some bring in police actions and other threats that make for sleepless nights IF the baby sleeps at all
> the family could be angels or root of the previous problem, now my problem
> her career would be stagnant for awhile until baby care (for this & perhaps others to come), so romantic times that require money = probably out unless I get rich with less sleep, more expenses
> a bit of worry over the genes in this baby if the dad's family were several generations jerks or sickies1