Sometimes it's not about the guy, it's about the girl... she needs time to find/build that connection. I usually wait until "it hits" me, which means a strong connection was formed and then I start to fall for the guy. Just give it time, get to know the girl. If after a few months you see no progression then move on.
I hate to break it to you, but many girls love nice guys and are in relationships with nice guys, including myself. We all want them. However that doesn't mean we should be dating guys JUST cause they're nice. Niceness isn't enough. Attraction and compatibility are also must have's.
First of all, we all don't fit into that category.
I've dated plenty nice guys. I've also dated plenty "bad boys" and assholes. It all comes down to personal preference. A girl isn't passing you up because you're a good guy. She's most likely passing you up because you're not her type, she's not interested, etc.
I've also dated nice guys who ended up taking advantage of that and started acting douche-y. I've dated "bad boys" who ended up treating me better than some of the nice guys because they realized what they had. It's all just personal preference.
let me tell you this: we live in a society where most people consider both attraction and personality when dating somebody. We always hear guys place a lot of emphasis on appearance (without detracting the value of personality) so why can't girls? That said, sometimes it's not enough for a guy to be 'nice'; he can shower me gifts and be the greatest guy in the world but if I don't have the slightest attraction to him then it's not gonna work out.
You need to read up on pyschology and study up on this topic. As a woman its unfortunate to say but there is always a game. You meet a girl, you are nice and caring, you show high interest, you reach out a lot, you are to easy, girls interests drops. You lose. You can be nice but you can't over do it. Be polite but there is a push and pull to dating. Keep in mind most women like myself won't admit it to you but you need to be indifferent with a lot of your feelings up front. The early stages of dating are vital for you to be a challenge. People want what they can't have. Psychology tells us that when a guy or girl show that they are interested and then pull back a bit, then the chase will begin. You want her to reach out equally if not more. Don't always be available, don't always answer her calls or texts right away. You should be focusing on your career, fitness, and ways to better yourself daily. Not focusing on women as much. Women want a girl, confident, DRIVEN guy. Busy driven guys don't have time to text all day and be up our butts. You can be nice on the date but don't reveal all your cards, be a mystery. Being a challenge is key. If it's to easy, it's boring. I have a lot family friends who are psychologists. I have also studied a great deal in the field myself. Hope this helped.
I'm not Jere to argue with you because everything you say is biased but here it is... plain and simple.. Women want a rock. A man that stands his ground, stands for his beliefs and his woman. A man that plays the masculine roles and is a protector. A man who has a backbone and is in control of his destiny. Most women want a man that they KNOW will fight a random guy for disrespecting her. Sadly, the assholes tend to have these qualities more than the nice guys. That's why we make the same mistakes and go for them. We like those qualities. Mice guys are wonderful beings! But, that's just what I believe makes women drawn to assholes opposed to good guys.
That's completely untrue. Girls are sometimes attracted to a bad boy when we're younger, but the nice guys always win the girl in the end. We like to be treated well. A bad boy catches our eye, but is never a long term interest.
Umm I'm with a good guy he's so sweet and would never hurt me... You're just looking for the wrong woman bro. And that reply you said to that other girl makes you look NOTHING like a nice guy. You're probably just a douche who thinks that they deserve sex for being "nice". A real nice guy would never say that and some women do like to get slapped around but only during sex ;p