im 20 and im still single. i feel like all i attract is guys who just want sex, or nothing serious. everyine keeps sying my time will come but when. my friends always get the guys. if i dont give them what they ask for they leave. im always the other girl.
lets play devils advocate here. when the evil guy says boobs/pussy now this is a stick up. lol see what i did there :) . what do u say to them/him? no? tommorow? when we get married? lol... like what do they say to u and what do u say back? this is actually important. the reason is, is because while the guy should not ask RIGHT away, u should ask the guy to ask fairly quickly. now its up to u to figure out when u THINK u want to if at all. no u put out a COUNTER offer. the guy thinks about it and usually calms down for a while. *we will play long time scenario* after a while the guy will get tired again and be like i want it now... are we there yet? this is round 2 of the deal. u can either try to call his bluff, dangerous because ur testing how much he cares about u vs what ever time u set previously, as he is already claiming he can't wait now. or u can try to work with him on a new deal, or just completely fold and give in there. new deal basically repeats step 1 but its a quicker date than previously so he feels he won something. maybe instead of moving the date up, u guys do a show and tell with some distance between u, that way u can't jump up on each other *this is me with shifty looking eyes on both parties, i know guys and girls get when naked flesh pops out*. there is lots of things u can come up with that is NOT actual sex to appease this annoying lets have sex bull shit that u dont like. if u think a guy only wants sex u won't trust him, if a guy thinks ur not going to give him sex, he's not goign to waste his time on u. SOMEONE has to take the gamble, few years ago relationships use to be a lot more about two people vs now all about one or the other. anyway im sure u got some ideas now go forward grasshoppa and catch a boyfriend :)
You might be looking for guys at the wrong places or aren't putting yourself out there enough. I mostly managed to get dates by being social, going out with friends a lot of and through dating apps/sites. If you are finding yourself only getting guys who want sex then it's also a indication you are going for the wrong TYPE of guy.
I'm 25 and still single. None of the women that I've met so far have really managed to keep me interested. I don't approach a woman with the intention of just having sex or nothing serious; I look for what I like about her and what I don't like, and I ask myself if I could live with the negatives and still have a healthy relationship with her in the distant future. My problem now, may just be that I'm too used to being single. I've gotten really picky about the red flags that determine an instant no-go on a potential girlfriend/wife too. Being 20 and single isn't bad at all; I think it's a good age to figure out what you want and don't want in a significant other. You can even do some personal development while you figure things out. Don't mind your friends and their relationships; even if you turn 23 and are still single, it won't be too late. Just don't decide that you're going to be single for life and deny every male that attempts to get to know you. (I know that this does not turn out well from experience)
I would say that you are attracting this type of guy into your life. Basically you attract what it is you think. Mainly about yourself, if you have high standards and are comfortable in your skin and or have confidence in yourself. Also know what you want and don't want in a guy, screen them if you're not sure Amazon has a book called 1001 questions to ask before you get married and covers every category that you need to know to make an informed decision on who to let into your life and who to let go. Another thing to look at is the pattern of your behavior, are you classy or trashy in your attitude. Most players naturally gravitate toward women of lower self esteem and self worth, if you need to work on yourself. Sexy is an attitude not a dress size.
well then, change your mindset. You are too hooked and looking for commitment and are upset its evading you, so... change your mindset and just fuck and leave. My best girl friend does that... its funny really. either you change your mindset, or you keep waiting. in my opinion really, i think you should just make the approach yourself, and if you can't, well... Back to waiting... in my experience... people who do the whole waiting thing, usually end up getting hurt... just saying
You are still young, and there is nothing wrong in being single. If you are trying then keep trying which you are already doing. Sometimes yes it happens that you tend to attract wrong type of people, but then it may not be your fault entirely.
There is to me no time limit saying you must be a couple or with another by a certain time frame, when the moment is there and it will come.. just seize it.. could be for right now you and your body just may not be totally all in as yet.. but on the bright side sometimes things are worth in the long run just letting the the puzzle of... relationship pieces... and those kinds of relationships have a way of playing out that way.. take care
Out of curiosity: - Do you do your side to keep conversations going with them? - Do you share personal information about yourself with them? - Do you ask them personal questions about themselves?
I'm just saying this because something deeper than just sex has to be based on knowing each other. Are you sure you are getting the right impression that they only want sex? Have they said that specifically and/or made specifically sexual advances? I mean there are a lot of guys who only want sex, that's true. But if you personally aren't engaging enough with people or aren't open to letting them into your life, then nothing serious is going to happen. Maybe you already know that, I just wanted to point that out
Oddly I get shocked reactions when I tell people I'm single... which is weird since the only time I wasn't rejected I got cheated on... but enough about my problems...
It probably depends on where you are going to meet guys... bars tend to be hook up zones... most guys going there aren't looking for a relationship. I'm probably still single because I refuse to go to a bar to drink...
I think you are just in that age group where things are so unknown. Careers tends to be the biggest issue at that age. Guys want to focus on getting a good job so they don't want strings if they have to pick up and leave.
clearly a girl who REALLY wants a relationship. don't focus on what you WANT, its about what you ARE. i wouldn't want a relationship with some who is desperate. Wait out your time, do the things you love, be who you want to be and somewhere among those lines you shall find the one.
Ah, I was once you. Same mind set and everything. It's the way you present yourself and the fact that you even give them the opportunity to try and get what they want from you. I'm not talking down on you, but telling you what I know because I used to do the same thing.
Once you get out of that mind set you start to meet real MEN who actually want something more than just sex. Stop worrying about who your friends are getting. Start worrying about yourself and the people you surround yourself with. You WILL find the right guy, but you can't rush it, either. Also when you meet a guy, be straight forward about what you want and don't want. If they can't respect that, they're not for you.
You are just 20 dont worry the right one will come on board. Experience your life now being single what is wrong to be single at your age? If you feel frustrated you are still single at 20, that is nothing comparing to ladies who are still sinlge and hnever ever had had a boyfriend in past years or even dating at mids 40, s that is frustrating!!! (this si my case)
One, being single is not always a bad thing. Sometimes it means you need time to work on yourself first before bringing someone else into the picture. Cliche as it sounds, its really all you can do at this point.
Second, the best relationships happen when you aren't actively seeking love. When you're living your own life and find someone special its because you aren't looking for someone because you're lonely, desperate, worried about being alone, etc.