If you SO is struggling with anxiety, depression and an eating disorder and does things that they normally wouldn't do and they were in a really bad spot for a few months would you break up with them or help them get better?
It depends. Most people will want to say that they would stay and help. But the only reason anyone does anything is for a benefit. If that benefit that you are providing ceases to exist, there's no reason to stay. You also have to measure self-perception. People will think "What kind of person would I be if I left her, just because she's having a rough time." So that plus how annoying she was, how much I cared about her, I would leave or stay, depending on which action would give the most benefit or the least demerit.
I'd try and stay with them. I have anxiety myself though so if their mental illnesses start to affect me and make my health worse, then I'm gonna have to look after myself first and if that means at least taking a break from them, I'm gonna have to do that.
The relationship dynamic changes in this scenario. I would stay and help, but depending on whether or not any this changing over months we may or may not break up. Because it's not a give and take relationship anymore. You become her emotional and mental caretaker and that doesn't work for a happy relationship.
There has to be an end in sight in some way. Even if we broke up. I would still stick around to help, but not as a lover
I would stay and help, and I have, but they have to make an effort too. If it's been like a year or more and they don't do anything to change their life, then I might not be able to stay... it would depend on how much it affects me though. I've gone through long periods of depression and anxiety in my past, so I understand it. I also understand that nobody but yourself can change it. You have to make an effort to change. If they repeatedly do self-destructive things and then complain about how bad everything is but refuse to try anything different, then I might not be able to deal with that.
I would help them get better. Why would I break up with them? Unless there is no hope for them to get better and she doesn't want me, then I guess I would break up. I definitely don't want to be where I'm not wanted.
Stay and help, break up once its all safely taken care off.
I can't handle the whole gratitude part that usually comes after. Makes me feel awkward in a relationship.
I tried to help a woman who I was dating, back around 20 years ago. She was so abusive towards me that I had to discontinue any attempt at support. However she probably wanted to be left alone since she treated me that way. She had a pattern of doing that with men, I found out later. But that is just my experience.
If i was in a relationship with him i would stay and support him. I could never turn my back on someone i love. It's during the worst times of your life and the challenges you face, that you see the true colours of those who say they care about you , so i would use it as an opportunity to show the strength of my love , and prove to him that i will stick by him through bad times too... not just the good times. I would never leave someone i love at a time when they needed me the most.
I'd be there no matter what. I'm like that with just my friends too. If I have any sort of significant bond with you, I'm there for the good and the bad. Two of my friends have been going through some stuff recently and I'm there for them. It would be the same if I were to be in a relationship
Depends, some people want help and want to get better. If that's the case, then i'd stay and be supportive. I have a mental disorder that's very severe but I'm trying to get treatment for it, and I'd want them to do the same for me. However, if this person doesn't think they're doing anything wrong and refuses to see the light no matter how many times you try to show it to them, then they need to go.
If they're destructive towards you, then leave. For example are they blaming you for their actions, are they aggressive with you, mean, belligerent, belittling, etc... are they taking out their problems on you? Are they open to accepting help? If they aren't, they won't be... change comes from within. No one can make you change unless you want to. If they don't want to, then don't waste your time and don't feel like an asshole leaving. It's their own choice. Good luck!