Not at all. You're allowed to like or dislike anyone for any reason no matter how significant it may be to someone else. It's only rude if you reject him in an insulting way. We are all human beings and we should all be treated with at least a hint of dignity and humanity. You can just tell him that you're not in him or you can even lie about the reason if you want to, but it's in the best interest of both parties if you don't waste his and your time by trying to convince yourself to feel a way that you don't.
I almost always give a guy at least one chance because of something one of the male commenters said: I don't often realize what I'm attracted to. A guy can look dorky in a picture, but if he's funny, confident, and sincere, I don't care what he looks like - I'm almost always attracted to him. Looks are important because you have to be attracted to someone, BUT a lot of times we don't give someone a chance to be attractive to us by knowing their personality. If you don't feel it after a few dates, then that's totally legitimate. But dating tells you what you're attracted to, and we don't often know as well as we think. I've surprised myself in the past haha. Good luck!!
No, that is understandable (just like it is for us to reject a girl for say, having too much body fat for our tastes or whatever preferences may be). HOWEVER, there is no excuse to be a rude bitch to anyone (not saying you are) and being cold to people. People have feelings and it takes A LOT for a guy to put himself out there for you, so be as kind as you can be in your rejection.
It's only rude if you tell him that's the reason. You shouldn't base your opinion on him just by his appearance but that's another issue. If you just reject him by saying, "I'm sorry, I'm not interested" that's all you need to say.
Why should you be obligated to date someone you aren't attracted to? That is very thoughtful of you though. In the end, it's up in the air, whether or not his personality would out way how you feel now. Assuming it doesn't work, it'll only be harder for him after giving him hope there might be something there.
There's a fine balance between what you're describing. If this person doesn't take care of their appearance, trendy or not, then itd be safe to assume your interests don't align with his. However if he's just more occupied with other matters and assumes his appearance to be trival, it could be a chance to know someone beyond the scope of their looks.
First of all, why would you date someone if you don't know something as basic as his personality? You can always talk informally but going on a date? Secondly, no, i don't think it's rude to reject a guy because of that, unless you make it obvious that's the issue, try to make up something? Cheers
No, it's not rude. You like who you like. I don't go for looks really. I go for personality. If I didn't find him initially attractive, once I got to know his personality, then I might change my view of him. I would just nicely reject him, but let him know I was open to just hanging out. If I was truly unattracted to him though, then I just would let it go and move on. It's only rude if you are rude about it when rejecting them.
I normally try to say yes to a date even if I'm not attracted. The main reason is sometimes after I've talked to them for a while I can find them more attractive. But sometimes I know that's not the case and you don't need to feel bad about that.
kind of... i mean u didn't even give him a chance to show whats inside of him. he might be bright, nice, kind, had charisma and really catch your attention... many times brad pitt loking guys are boring and annoying