You have to be able to socialize with someone to form a profound bond, even if it's in a minimal compacity. I don't think you can never learn as I have a close friend who is "aspie" as you put it and he has improved a lot since he was young. You just need an understanding person and some perseverance.
Just try to be pleasant is all. It's okay if you're a little awkward a lot of girls find that endearing and in this culture with a lot of "fuckboys" a lot of girls may even find it as a breath of fresh air. Just have the confidence to approach and then just try to be cheerful and respectful and you should be fine.
Yeah you need social skills if you want a decent girlfriend. Most women are very traditional still despite all the shit you read on here. It's built in and they accept it. They want led. They want a confident man they can follow. The heart makes you strong. The heart overflows the mouth. So what you say and how you say it marks how strong you are as a person. Women respect strength and will only follow men they respect. If you're heart is pure you'll never say the wrong thing. If it isn't you'll never say the right thing. A good tree doesn't bear bad fruit and a bad tree doesn't bear good fruit. I know this is cryptic but joining the dots yourself makes the lesson stick better. You judge people by their words. An believe me women are very judgmental. Theyre like rabbits. One wrong move sends them scarpering for cover
If u can make a girl laugh, u can make her do anything. Just go upto a girl and try to make her laugh... thats it. If you're all serious,. no woman will like that and she can't feel safe and comfortable around u..
I would say yes, good social skills are essential. I had them, but could almost not get a date until I passed the age of 30, because I was not a player, or some version of the sociopathic bad boy. I have observed that to be successful with females in the age range of the asker it is also necessary to be a sociopath.