So I was having a fight with my boyfriend like any normal couple but it escalated quickly and I told him to get out of my apartment and I never wanted to see him again. I don't really remember what happened after that exactly except that he hit me. I kicked him out and he's been texting me and showing up at my door with flowers and presents etc. We haven't broken up but we're not talking. I'm not sure if I should break up with him or give him another chance. help!
oh god. I don't know who to pick as MHO all your opinions are really helpful! thank you guys so much! I can officially say I'm single!
You should never be with a man who physically hits you. Never!. If he has done that once, there is every chance he will keep repeating it, the cycle will never stop. The best time to make it stop is right now!.
Hence do what it takes to make this stop!
In fact you are already doing the right thing by removing him from your apartment and not talking to him. The next step I would suggest is officially break up with him once and for all.
Heya, Sorry to hear that happened to you. I am a strict believer that no one should lay their hands on another person unless for self defence or life threatening situations. You boyfriend was wrong in that manner when he hit you. Not only is it wrong but if you accept his behaviour and invite him back into your life he'll probably do it again. Since that's what abusive assholes do. You have a couple of choices here. Report his ass and leave him. Stay quiet and accept him back (bad choice) or three leave him without reporting him. I can't tell you which is better because you have to choose. But I am repeating myself again.. Laying your hands on someone is never acceptable. Take care.
I have a feeling you are very conflicted. On one hand you could stay with him and take that risk of being hit, or you can run away and choose not to take that risk. No one here will give you that answer, and to most being hit is not ok. But this is a decision you have to make, not anyone else.
I'd say give him another chance it was most likely an accident that's why some of us guys leave when we get angry we have a hard time controlling our anger sometimes. If this becomes a consistent thing though leave him.
Break up with him. He'll just hit you again and then you'll be one of those couples who get on Steve Wilkos or something. Don't be a couple who gets on Steve Wilkos because you're being a retard who hasn't ended a to-be abusive relationship.
Yes break up and tell him to never contact you again or you will file a police report. Once you fogive a guy for hitting you by taking him back it will happen again. at least now your able to walk away no kids yet etc.
Do not take him back. Reading your updates, I'm glad you did the right thing! I've been in that situation with family and if they do it once, they will do it again. Private message me if you ever need a friend and want to talk about it ♥
People make big mistakes in anger. One loss of temper does not an abuser make.
It's up to you whether you want to try again. If you do try again, make it clear you won't tolerate that kind of behaviour under even the most extreme circumstances and if it ever happens again he won't get another chance.
Or you could just end it. It depends what constitutes a dealbreaker for you.
It would not be good for you to get back together with him. If he hit you once, he will do it again. That is not someone you want to be in a long-term relationship with. Stand your ground and don't let him back into your life.